Are you love shy?

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Are you love shy and do you get terrible anxiety when approaching women? If so, do you expect the woman to be the initiator?

sometimes.

i've always been a firm believer in gender equality, so i think they should both initiate
...or split it 50/50? whichever works. It's not really fair to just expect it of one gender, but not another though. Double standards aren't very cool.

I'm very love shy, I literally panic and think about what I need to do and how to do everything right without screwing up.
Well lately I haven't... But who knows?

I am most definitely love-shy and am very interested in the issue of love-shyness and tend to think about it all the time, about the profound social impact it has and about how I can possibly solve it. I've no expectation that the woman will be the initiator though it would greatly help matters, but very few women have done the initiating with me.

I'm in-between love-shy and incel. I've made some approaches, but I always get rejected.

I'm not loveshy and don't mind approaching women IF I have some reason think that the woman in question would be interested in me. Unfortunately, I'm completely unable to tell if someone's interested in me so the only times I've ever been the initiator is when someone has already told me that she's interested.

Of course, all of this was before I just gave up on relationships completely

Why do you ask?

Why do you even care?

Of all the social domains in which I am shy, love shyness is perhaps my strongest.

I become anxious, I start thinking there's no point really talking to her because she'll never like me anyway, and then of course there's all the nerves. I try to get over that, though, for better or for worse.

I just find myself having a very rare/odd/unique personality type - and its not exactly something that I can wear on my sleeve, its too internal. Because of that I'd say that I have more of a need to hang back and figure out who's who. The dating game generally is that you're a weak man if you don't try to get a number or innitiate with ay girl you find attractive, I can innitiate but - girls who have a look that gives away a compatible personality instantly are few and far between, likely as much as the girls who aren't.

Usually the only time that I leave it in the girl's court to innitiate is if I'm not seeing enough evidence that she'd be my type. If they do talk to me or take a step forward I am interested in seeing what's there, sometimes they do have something in them that wasn't readily apparent, other times they are just going in blind.