devster21 wrote:
This thread is kinda sad. I love girls with a little bit of meat but I guess its all personal taste.
I can't really decide if it's sad or just horribly predictable. If you want devster, pm me, and I will give you resources for helping out other women who suffer from size prejudice. The reason I'm not posting anything here, is the last thing we need is more trolls, finding those sites and posting hate messages there.
I think what's sad is people's inability to understand that the fat are prejudiced against almost in the same way Aspies are. They are told their exsistance is a burden on others, and that they should change. How about focusing on what we have in common, instead of creating a divide by attacking others who are considered outcasts by society.
I would post a link to Big Fat Facts to explain this, but seeing as most people like to tear down the site, claiming it isn't substantiated, their references aren't right..or whatever. I don't know if it's an Aspie thing to do that, or what. I think if you want the url, pm me. I would hate to see this thread devolved into another "Oh the dumb fatties are all in denial look, they don't understand that they're harming themselves" discussion.
That is what it tends to come down to, I have had people ask me in the chat when I say I'm fat do you exercise, what do you eat. Neither should be of consequence, it's nobody's issue except mine and my doctors. Most fat people eat healthier than thin people, who do not have the daily constant harassment and pressure to eat right, in order to pacify fat haters or fat haters who claim "They're only concerned about your health" as a cover. If people really cared about fat people's health, they'd support HAES, Healthy Activity at Every Size. They'd support intuitive eating, and the scientifically found reality that people come with different genetically pre-set weight points. That everyone cannot loose weight and stay that way without harming themselves. That Weight-Loss Surgery is little more than a stomach lobotomy, and only a medical procedure that has been proven to do more harm than good, would be practiced on people who are considered undesirables, which has happened many times before in history mind you.
Think about that in regards to Chelation on Autistic children, or the other snake oil cures that have been tested on them, even if some of those Autistic children have died from the human experimentation performed on them. How every day we hear how people want to "cure" us for our own good, and how we must be too "ret*d" or stupid to understand what is the best for us. Much like how people assume fat people must be idiots, and must be fat because they cannot stop eating.
Perhaps Aspies find themselves more in relationships with fat women, because fat women share the same understanding that we have which comes from living a life through adversity. Maybe some of the guys posting here are beating up on fat woman, in a round-a-bout way of beating up on themselves for being different, or taking out being different on fat women.
Perhaps it's just as simple as men are immature, and they will only validate a woman who looks like a sex toy to them. Oh I'm sorry, was that insulting, do you dislike that I pointed out men aren't perfect? For all the grief women get daily for not looking like some perfect supermodel, maybe what needs to happen is for the men who post a thread and contribute to one like this with fat hate, have it thrown into their face that they're not perfect either. I mean, would you like it if the women on Wrongplanet started a thread talking about how they would never date a man with a small dick?