Non-Verbal Mystery

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Ok - so I have terrible, terrible problems with understanding people's intentions and emotions and behaviours... (quite typical as for an aspie, but anyway) So I think this is the post to evry aspie here that is/was in the realtionship - how can I tell if the other person is attracted to me?
What are the "signals"? I am confused... Sometimes I think that I am only just hallucinating, or maybe I am not? Yet I am too shy to solve this flirting mystery... So, anyone has got any advices? Any explanations? Please

Okay, so for a girl I don't have much advice, really...

1. I would show a girl I was attracted to by looking at her either frequently or for longer than just a glance.
2. If I try to get your attention somehow, that means I'm interested.
3. If you walk up to me and start talking to me, you automatically gain many points. In general, guys like girls that do that.
4. If I walk next to you, that means I'm trying to talk to you and get your attention, which means I'm interested....
5. If I smile at you, that means I'm attracted\interested.

I dunno... I'll have to watch what I do and get back to you. I've been so concerned with finding out the mysteries of girls showing they are attracted to me that I've completely ignored how I show it back.

Ok, but I am female...

So could You give me some advices from another perspective?

How do guys behave like, when they are attracted to some girl?

i have the same problem with girls. i'll pick up on a couple of things, like eye contact (when i'm paying attention), but i'm never sure, i'm always going in pretty much blind and clueless and just taking a big chance.

but i'd say the most reliable ones for guys (as in when reading guys) are probably if they make more eye contact than usual, if they try to talk to you a lot, and if they smile a lot, especially when looking at you.