Random Incoherencies

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A lot of what my girl does is very different then what I will anticipate or how I would react in the same situation.

So of course I am confused.

I understand she is from a different culture and I take that into consideration, but even according to the conventions of her culture, she is acting differently then what I anticipate.

I mean I am confused.

Someone help for the sake of this relationship!

I don't think that's quite enough information to let anyone truly help. What culture is she from, who has AS in the relationship, and what are some other details?

women rarely do what men anticipate. Part of this is by design, part is just the normal male/female differences.

""A lot of what my girl does is very different then what I
will anticipate or how I would react in the same situation.""

Yep, that sounds like how my girl was
But, when time passed and we got to
know each other better both understood
better how the person was - one of the
things we liked about each other was
that we were so different - make the
best of it and make each other happy
i would suggest. Talk with her about
it.

Expectations are a dangerous game; try losing them. I know, easier said than done - I'm still working on it after several years - since it tends to be part of how one develops a regimen of function when reading others isn't possible... predictive measures are one common method that I consistently observe in the processes shared by those on the spectrum. Expectation and attachment, two emotional states that prime us for catastrophe.


M.

Ok, she is Malawian, I have AS.

A lot of what my girl does is very different then what I
will anticipate or how I would react in the same situation.""

Yep, that sounds like how my girl was
But, when time passed and we got to
know each other better both understood
better how the person was - one of the
things we liked about each other was
that we were so different - make the
best of it and make each other happy
i would suggest. Talk with her about
it.

How did you accomplish this?

women rarely do what men anticipate. Part of this is by design, part is just the normal male/female differences.

Is there a general translation process?