guys asking you out for a joke

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How are you supposed to tell the difference between a guy actually asking you out for real, or when they're just having a laugh cos they reckon it's funny? I guess they'll grow out of finding this amusing at some point, but until then I can never say yes cos 99% of the time they're just taking the piss. Little help?!?!

I dont know, if you say "yes"v to any and anybody, but if it was me, it would first of have to be someone i know, and someone who might have indicated through time, that that person might like you, and if best possible, when they look you in the eyes, in a serious way (if you can look em in the eye) and they say they like you.

dunno, i mean if a guy comes asking you out of the blue if you want to date him, there is obviously something fishy on it

I can normally tell that it's a joke if the boy is acting silly at the time, but the latest boy who did it is sort of camp anyway (but definitely not gay, interestingly), so I couldn't tell if he was acting silly or just himself.

To be honest, I wouldn't have said yes anyway, but at least if I know it's for real I can come up with a reason or one of those cliche let-downs they always do on TV, but if it's a joke I'd rather just say no straight out.

Sometimes guys do that because if you say no, then they can laugh it off as a joke. So they don't get completely humiliated. Respond in kind. Accept jokingly. If he starts making fun of you then laugh and say it was just a joke. If he doesn't and looks pleased and may be even looks serious then be serious as well.

How old are you? I've known a couple of guys to do this, but they were of a certain age at the time and I can't imagine anyone much older than that being so inconsiderate.

This will definitely stop with them getting older.
If somebody really does it, give him a good slap in the face, next time you see him. That will teach them good manners.

I have never had that happen or even heard a guy ask that to anyone. I think it is really dumb and I know I wouldnt be attracted to a guy who would be so immature to do that. I would have said 'no' anyway. I have had two relationships were marriage has been brought up and I am like 'are you joking' Maybe they was or maybe they wasnt. I just let them know straight away that No I don't want to.

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Last edited by EnglishLulu on 11 Dec 2008, 4:49 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'm 13.

See if the guy is persident or how you spell it.
Like if he keeps on trying to show he likes you or asks you.

Knowing the guy would also help, cause some people are jerks and try something like askign a girl out for fun, or cause they lost a bet or god knows what. Not to be mean either, but looks play role to, you whont see some guy, looking like a model go and ask the fatest (no offence to those who are overweight) girl in class if she would date him.


Dunno, alot of things place a role if you ask me. But i'm not an expert when it comes to signs of if a guy/girl likes you or not

Maybe the guys, like you, are still kids. People of that age don't always seem to plan ahead very well, so it may be that at least some of them ask you out first, then ask their parents for date money, get told 'No', and then treat it all like a joke just to save themselves the embarrassment of admitting that they are too poor to date a fine, young girl like you.

Anyway, that's just my opinion.

Oooh I remember that. I hated it.
I wasn't up to dating at that age anyway, but the whole "pretending to like me just because it's funny" thing.... argh.

We don't really have actual dates, people are just said to be "going out with" someone, but they don't actually go out anywhere together. So the question is never, "Want to hang out some time?" it's, "Will you go out with me?" which is more direct.

I seriously never witnessed that when I was younger. Guys always have it tough asking girls out its so hard for them. So I don't see how they would make a joke out of it. Now I can see certain cheerleader type girls playing the joke on guys because young girls can be really mean. I think the guy that asked you really likes you or he wouldn't have bothered to get the nerve to ask.

^Trick is it doesn't take any nerve if you don't actually care. Even so I don't ever recollect this happening, it just isn't that funny, even for a 13 year old.

Well, at that age, boys go through a transformation; the seat of consciousness descends through the body, and lodges somewhere south of the beltline. Naturally, there's not nearly as much room for brains,, so their thinking either compresses, or disappears altogether...

It's a tough age. Some guys have no idea how to go about even asking for dates (mea culpa), and trying to understand women in general is a task some males never master...

I remember asking girls that age out (well, in church youth groups, skating rinks, and other things like that). I was so grateful that any of them would say 'yes', the thought of deliberately
rejecting a girl never entered my head.