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zghost wrote:
Well, this DOES sound like one of those situations that can end in an affair. I'm not saying you don't mean well, and you clearly state you stance in this, but you can't control her mind. If she's all unburdening herself to you, and saying you understand her better, (and he says she has a history of this).....
What will you do if she comes on to you? If she tells you he just doesn't understand her and she's in love with you?
I'm not saying it will happen, just that it looks very possible. A new baby puts a huge strain on a relationship, so it's likely they have some troubles.
I've seen this so many times, the chick will decide the caring friend is a better choice, and jump ship.
You sound like you're being a wonderful friend to her, that's good. Just be prepared for things that may develop... I hope you can handle it.
He's a questionable suggestion: If she's complaining about something in particular, perhaps call him (or meet him) one day and explain that you care about her and want her to be happy, maybe he's not aware of what's bothering her? (Because often guys aren't.) That would also reassure him that you're not "plotting against him" or anything.
(Questionable because I have no clue how he'd take it.)
She told me right in front of her husband that she was falling for me. She then told me all the things she loved about me and that I was the one she had been looking for as I was driving them home. She said she wished she would've met me before him. Apparently, she told him this a couple days before she told me. I realized I had fallen for her too.
I decided to end it a few days ago and she was upset about this, but she did understand. I can't get her off my mind though and feel guilty about it. I know some may look down on me for this, regardless of how I handled it for letting things get to this point, but I don't know what to do. I'll explain more later in depth but i'm very conflicted with this. I know I brought this upon myself but I can't get over her. Whether or not I acted on feelings or not, I feel like this situation did end in affair.
05 Jan 2009, 4:14 pm
