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30 Jan 2009, 4:43 pm

Is it possible to get a girlfriend or marry even if you don't really have any friends?

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30 Jan 2009, 4:46 pm

Sure it's possible.

I met my husband online.

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30 Jan 2009, 5:00 pm

Thanks Mithera. Its just that I am close now to loosing my current friendship group. I didn't wan't to be friends with them anyway really.

Fair enough you met your husband online but surely the person you meet through online dating will wan't to know your social status and how many friends you have etc....?

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30 Jan 2009, 5:04 pm

*shrug* depends on the person, I guess.

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30 Jan 2009, 5:11 pm

Well, if you don't have much friends yourself and you meet someone just like you, I'm sure it wouldn't matter then to her how many friends you have. Besides friends are overated...

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30 Jan 2009, 5:19 pm

Yep Blue they are overated. My friends are just too laid back when it comes to contacting me. Antoher issue is that they know I have something in the autism spectrum. Dosen't make it any easier for me I guess

You know the tough thing is my younger bro is the complete opposite of me in the sense that he is mr popular and everyone knows him. Can't say the same about myself though. Oh well thats life I guess.....

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30 Jan 2009, 5:57 pm

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My friends are just too laid back when it comes to contacting me.

UGH!

I ditched my last friend a few years ago for this. She was always going out with everyone BUT me and never calling me or inviting me anywhere. But if she had a problem, of course I'm the listener. I'm the caregiver. I put up with it for 6 years.
The last straw was when she trash talked my man behind my back.

I'm through with that b***h!

I don't want anymore friends.

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30 Jan 2009, 6:34 pm

I even gave some my buddey my cell phone number but they still haven''t bothered to ring me. Pathetic in my opinon bearing in mind how much I used to ring them to arrange things.

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30 Jan 2009, 6:34 pm

I even gave some of my buddeys my cell phone number but they still haven''t bothered to ring me. Pathetic in my opinon bearing in mind how much I used to ring them to arrange things. I haven't seen my friends since new years eve either. :evil:

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30 Jan 2009, 6:37 pm

Jamesy wrote:

Is it possible to get a girlfriend or marry even if you don't really have any friends?

Definately possible. I've also found that there are many people that consider me a friend even though I rarely see/communicate with them and don't really feel the same way back.

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30 Jan 2009, 8:37 pm

Jamesy wrote:

Is it possible to get a girlfriend or marry even if you don't really have any friends?

Of course. In my book that's an advantage even. I've been on this planet for 38 years now and it seems the fewer people you're involved with, the fewer problems you have. You just have to meet an independent girl that feels the same way.

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30 Jan 2009, 9:14 pm

It can decrease your exposure, I suppose. Since my last group of friends fell apart, I've found that I'm just a lot less likely to go out and do things. It's not that I'm depressed or afraid or anything, it's just that I can't think of anything I want to do by myself outside of my house.

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31 Jan 2009, 12:30 am

Jamesy wrote:

Is it possible to get a girlfriend or marry even if you don't really have any friends?

Maybe there are less possibilities, but it is possible. I did meet my wife in a "velorio" (meeting that is made in the night when somebody dies) of my uncle in a little town where nobody knew me.

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31 Jan 2009, 1:22 am

mitharatowen wrote:

I met my husband online.

Husband? And you're 23? Damn... now I know time is definitely running out for me...

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31 Jan 2009, 3:20 am

Jamesy wrote:

You know the tough thing is my younger bro is the complete opposite of me in the sense that he is mr popular and everyone knows him. Can't say the same about myself though. Oh well thats life I guess.....

Don't worry we seem to have a lot in common. I was never a priority to friends, it did get me down, but not anymore. My older sister is Miss Popular, well kinda.She has more friends, talks more, is well liked, everything. I'm not jealous though. I just asked myself, 'Is that how I want to be?' The true answer is no.

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31 Jan 2009, 4:23 am

Is it possible to get a girlfriend without friends and without using the internet?

ToadOfSteel wrote:

mitharatowen wrote:

I met my husband online.

Husband? And you're 23? Damn... now I know time is definitely running out for me...

Don't worry about it. You're a dude, you don't have a biological clock. Matter of fact, at the point you're at it's probably better not to get married before you can get a good career started.

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