There is the pain felt in the absence of love, and that felt in the throes its vulnerability. Loving does make one open to being hurt, but also to great happiness. Something I realized long ago is that it is not the opinion of strangers that affects me - I really don't give a damn. But those of the people I care about, that I love... this gets under my skin. Similarly, I'm less likely to get upset with someone I don't know than I am with someone dear to me, as contradictory as that may sound - but it isn't worth my time to get attached or involved unless it has a greater relevance to me.
M.
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My thanks to all the wonderful members here; I will miss the opportunity to continue to learn and work with you.
For those who seek an alternative, it is coming.
So long, and thanks for all the fish!