is this a necessary idea?

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to tell girls you are aspie?

Not in the beginning stages of a relationship. You need to give it time in that regard.

Agreed. However, you do have to tell her eventually, since otherwise she will chalk up your idiosyncrasies to not liking her or being a jerk or something like that...

If you want to live your life with them, then it is best to do so. But I would not do it right off the bat. I Imagine that would scare people off.

Agreed.

scare ppl the min u tell them when u first meet them?

I wouldn't bring it up on the first date or anything. After that... well if you notice them studying you trying to figure you out or something, then maybe you might mention it. Otherwise, unless the relationship gets serious, I don't really see a need to say anything.

tell her this:

"my strength is my ability to think logically. my weakness is my poor people's skill."

People always conceal things about themselves, you don't know whether they will use it against you, you'll find most girls are concealing things too, so no. Not until you are sure it won't be used against you.

yeah...I wouldn't bring up the bank job in Philly, or the time I sawed the legs off the Periodic Table...

give it time.

In the company of friends, I sometimes mention the symptoms I recognise in myself without actually giving them a name, when I feel it is relevant to mention them. Often I find that many people without AS can relate to them in some way or another. I tell them about AS much later.

if you are AS you can always have someone who isnt AS to relate to in someway

Well yes, I agree (and I don't think any of my friends have AS) but some people here apparently wouldn't appear to relate to even that.

THat's deep, and so true.
Shows you understand yourself
Which women love

only when you really know them well

The last girl I was interested in, prior to it falling apart a week before christmas, was autistic herself, she told me that herself as she felt she could trust me......... I was planning on telling her I was on the spectrum myself, however it never happened... I think she knew though as her and I related well and shared some common traits.........

although I'm single I know someone is out there for me, and I know she's lovely and when she knows I am an aspie, she'll accept it

i wouldn't until you get seriously involved with them and/or your quirks start causing some strain in the relationship.