"Asperger Love Guide" - A brief review

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This book seems like it might be useful, however, it turns out to be rather superficial.

One of the most off-putting points, which casts doubt on its credibility from the beginning, is that the book is plagued by typos and grammatical errors that would have been caught had it gone through any sort of editing process, or had been re-read by the authors. Layout-wise it looks like something that was typeset using Microsoft Word. I'm not sure what sort of publisher published this, but it seems to be along the lines of your typical vanity press title (16 or 18 pt. fonts, excessive whitespace, and information that seems like it was hastiliy compiled from a variety of other sources without credit or having been digested by the authors, on the level of a typical secondary-school essay).

As for the actual content, it's all well-worn, typical examples would be "join clubs in a thinly veiled attempt to meet people with similar interests", which is your standard NT dating advice. The section on fashion/grooming is a set of bullet points, which can be summarised as "don't wear loud clothing and ask your NT friends for fashion advice if you're unsure", which is about where you'd be if you hadn't read the book. The rest of the book goes on to repeat a lot of stuff you'd see googling for any sort of dating tips. I was expecting the book to go into specific detail about the common difficulties people with AS face when trying to carry through on any of the typical dating advice you commonly find (avoiding pitfalls, etc), but the book doesn't touch on that at all.

The first few sections ('days') of "Rules of the Game" go a lot further as far appearing your best and stepping outside your comfort zone, despite that book's "pickup artist" overtones, so it's probably a much better bet for a lot of the stuff that's poorly covered in the title under review. "Rules of the Game" also doesn't go into great detail and uses bullet points, but it is a lot more concrete in terms of suggestions. Any of the books by Alan Pease about body language would probably also be a much better investment.

Perhaps the book was aimed at people with zero competence or understanding of dating, but I find that hard to believe.

The most glaring problem with the book is its "case studies" at the end. As one of its *two* case studies (one male, one female) it uses someone who admits to never actually dating anyone (!). Also, the suggested resources at the end consist entirely of a plug for the author's websites, and an advertisment for a UK counselling agency.

All in all, I can't say I'd have bought this if I had been able to flip through it in real life rather than ordering it online. To sum up, there are a lot of better titles out there about dating/interpersonal skills, although the subject area is bound to be a minefield because of its broad appeal and requires a lot of sifting to find the worthwhile titles.

Any suggestions for books that are quite good other than the Alan Pease ones might make a good follow-up to this post, to balance things out

Leil Lowndes - find it by torrenting.

I don't use torrents, can someone host it elsewhere?

Haven't the two lovebirds who wrote this crap broken up since writing it?