uh oh, she said this

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"i try to figure out what you're thinking about this relationship, but you're so hard to tell...but i think it needs time...and by the time passes by... I wish I could have known you better than now"

is this good or bad?

From the sound of it... not good...

then she said

"
it's OK dear ..i know you're trying the best you could to win over my heart
i keep believing on that for sure
i think i will try to train you
"

She made you sound like a dog. Train who?

train me to communicate with her better

we're not native english speakers so we may use some words that dont say what they say

Train you? Wow.... um....Run far far away.

I think there's some overreaction in the thread to the use of the word 'train'. Substitute 'teach'.

I would not try to frame the original comment in 'good' or 'bad' terms. Think of it as a call to reveal more of yourself. Your partner wants to know you better - that's a good thing. If you're comfortable revealing more - do it.

That was my thought. Maybe even leave your comfort zone a little more.

She knows he's earnest and sincere

She knows he's trying

She wants to help him overcome communication not happening

Sounds positive to me.

Are you both of the same language/culture as each other?

Anyway, do you do any of the traditional, corny gestures? Around here, that would include sending her flowers at work, or think of some odd little present for no reason, or whatever they do in your culture.

thanks for the responses. yes, we're from the same cultural background. we exchanged gifts on valentine's day (i gave her a poetry book containing about 20 poems that i wrote myself, though only less than half are love poems). she gave me a cd of love songs (which she picked and burned into a blank cd).

i think she was referring to our actual dates, where i acted too cool, too emotionless, you know, like an aspie.

Dump. Now.

i dont understand why people think the word 'train' is bad

At least she was honest about having an agenda of training him.

Carries connotations of servility or even bestiality on your part: Pavlov trained dogs, for example. Also, there's a sinister mind-control aspect, as it works on instincts rather than the rational mind. Maybe "teach" is a better word.
And everyone saying that it's a cardinal offence: it's in translation! And it's pretty weaksauce to ditch someone because of a possible slip of the tongue anway.

like i said, we're both not native english speakers