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Basically, one of the things I'm looking for in a woman is more the companionship element than a sexual one... I want to primarily feel the intimacy with a woman, but I'm not necessarily looking to get laid... Where would be a good place to find women that are of a similar mindset?

PS: I'm not completely averse to sex, I wouldn't mind if the woman in such a hypothetical relationship wanted it, as long as it was a natural progression of the relationship and not something forced...

PPS: I'm specifically talking about human companionship... don't just say "get a pet"...

PPPS: I also don't want to hear any of that "wait till you're 30" crap either... I don't know if I can handle being all alone for 10 more years...

I want to know that too.
I think they are hiding behind their computors (like we do).

organise an aspie meet up for your region.

someone said women are more likely to attend day meets and men evening ones.

The only aspies I know that live within 100 miles of me are church members, and most of them are prepubescent kids (plus there's my mother...)

You like singing right? Have you tried joining any choirs (apart from church ones)? There's always more women than men in choirs, and you'll find choir girls are quite into male singers. I have a friend who met and started dating her current boyfriend through a community choir.

Then you're guaranteed at least one shared interest too.

I don't know of any choirs in the area that have any considerable amount of singers my age, though... it's always people old enough to be my parents...

That said, there was one girl who started showing up to some of the choir rehersals at my church, but I later found out she was taken... 4 months after meeting her...

Hmmm that's unfortunate. I know there's many in my area with a vast number of people in their 20's, but then again I live in a city...

Probably still worth a try though, it's a darn good way to meet potential partners; I just thought of another friend who met her bf through a choir.

Or any other interest group can be a good place too -- you'll want to meet someone with the same interests, I assume, so that your non-sexual time spent together can be interesting and mutually enjoyable.

I'm tailoring this list for you, since I know something about your stated interests --

e.g.
Chess club (if you like chess)

Bible study groups (seems up your alley)

Star Trek conventions or fan groups (I know that's you) -- btw, I went to a Farscape convention once (my wife dragged me there), very high number of cute chicks that reminded me of my wife. So be sure to check out other "wannabe" Star Trek-ish stuff that also have the same demo, like Firefly/Serenity stuff, if they still do it. Fringe, Lost, etc. Any kind of convention that has a strong fantasy element, women like.

Student government - very good place to meet people and be forced to spend time with them

Religious conventions? Is there any region-wide "young Christian" association you could be a member of?

Comicon?

WoW? -- I know someone who lost their wife that way.

Art classes?

Elective classes at a community college? Or some kind of extra-curricular class through the extension program?

http://cuddleparty.com/

If you're not adverse to physical touch, might be something to consider.


M.

Lol I used to know an aspie girl whose obsession was star trek. I really didn't get it (it looks really boring to me, then again I have always chosen books over tv shows), and unfortunately at the all girls school we went to zero people shared her interest. I recently happened to run into her again, and she was carrying this star trek handbag.

Anyway, quite a lot of my close friends are into all the Joss Whedon type fandoms, and go to the conventions and whatnot. They're all nerds. I went through a heavy nerd phase myself, where I was obsessed with fanfiction, HP, Buffy, that sort of thing, although these days I tend to be more diverse (a bit of everything). Like them though, I probably would still only be interested in guys who are nerds.

You've just got to look in the right places. If you go out night clubbing trying to find girls it's a lost cause, because the girls at those clubs are not your type and not looking for your type either. None of my nerd friends go out clubbing, but my drama friends do. Other guys here would do well to take note on what I'm saying about clubbing; if you're going to meet girls, DON'T BOTHER.