Going to cry...

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I'm good with words. I don't much show it here, but I can be. So, earlier today, I sent an email to my friend, the woman whom I love (though I haven't quite told her that yet, because she knows).

Because the email involved an emotionally charged issue with a possibility of rejection, I didn't check my email for half the day. After dinner with my son, I overcame my anxiety and looked. I had an invitation to dinner tonight!

Just tell her you hadn't checked your e-mail. I'm sure she'd understand that; not everyone checks their in-box every five minutes.

Ouch.
But you were busy with your son. That's understandable.
What time did she send it, and how long after that did you call?

Just go over there anyway, it's an invitation to spend time with her.

Say Something like:

"I'm so sorry, I forgot to check my e-mail. Should I still come over or not?"

Don't worry. Just do some deep breathing and ask her if she still wants you to come over. Just don't sweat it because it's not your fault for being anxious. She should've called you to let you know.

Everybody is right. It's not your fault, you had something to do with your son and missed her email. If she's at all reasonable she shouldn't be mad about that.

And, on the positive side, she DOES want to spend time with you. Now gird up your loins and go get her, tiger!

I check my email every five minutes, usually. At work, it is the most I can do to check it every hour (my personal email that is).

D*****! I should have called. Well, it's not too late.

(For those not keeping tabs, she and I are not involved, just old friends. But one day I sent her an email and she read between the lines -- read something that wasn't there even, but would have been had I thought about it, which I have since done.)

Thanks all.

And it wasn't too late to call. Not a bad conversation.

Well hey, if she wanted to have dinner with you that night (on such short notice, it was the same day you e-mailed her right?) there's a large possibility if you tell her the truth she won't object at all to having it tomorrow or perhaps another time. Put yourself in her shoes, she's not going to be offended by you simply not checking your email soon enough. Relax and keep postive about the situation, I'm sure it's fine.

Yea stay positive. You opened up to her and she invited you for dinner the same night. Sounds good to me. She could be a little embarrassed that she invited you for dinner but didn't hear back. So, she could be a little on the defensive that's all. Just so she doesn't get hurt.

LOL that' kinda funny

Even though I take things literally, I use a fair amount of hyperbole. The actual scene was more like this:

My son couldn't eat dinner because he had snacked on something. He started crying because he wanted to eat but couldn't. Okay. After dinner, I fire up my laptop and check my email. I turn to my son and say, "Daddy's going to cry now."

I was frustrated, shocked, and very thankful that someone suggested a call.

Don't take this so hard. Just honestly explain what happened and suggest another time.

If she really likes you, she will not lose interest over something so minor.

Don't worry, I'm sure she'll understand. It was a reasonable mistake, just apologize, explain what happened and ask if it's possible to have dinner again another night.