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Ok, I am going to dismiss you as irrelevant but it is worth a try, is it not?

Ok, I been through several counseling sessions, read several books on psychology, sociology and cultures and I am still confused. Of course, the problem is conflict of ideas, so who should I trust?

Ok, let me give you a background

I met this wonderful Malawian girl who lives in Israel and is planning on coming to America to study next year. She is a person who dosen't behave according to the conventions of that culture and then when I try to understand her culture(and I know Malawi very well, sak me anything about the geography and history of the country, I even know a few Chichewa words) but everytime I say Ndimakukonda(I love you), she says its bodza (lie).

But she thinks I am crazy and she is very unsure of me.

Also, I need your help. Does anyone have any ideas?

Thank you.

Or do I have to find this out on my own?

Help with what exactly? You haven't clearly defined the problem.

And did you meet in real life or over the internet?

Are you in America?

So the problem is every time you tell her you love her, she says it's a lie? Honestly, from my perspective and experience, she's very likely right. Internet lust would probably be a correct term, infatuation, maybe even limerence, but I get the feeling real love isn't at work here. She may well be in tune with that.

But, as you said, you'll dismiss this, so good luck to you.