O.K. to comment people's pics who you've hardly talked to?

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There's this new girl I kinda like and from a glitch the other day, I could see that she was looking at my profile on Saturday which would lead me to believe that there's some interest.

I wanted to comment on one of her pics where she's kind of tired looking but it was still pretty.

Is that alright?

Maybe. Maybe not. Just do it and find out what happens.

or you can PM the person and ask "may I comment on your pic or would you prefer that I do not disturb your privacy?" if the woman answers yes to the latter, than even if you did comment it would have been useless.

O.K., I just commented it, I put before it:

Maybe it's a bit out of the blue for me to be commenting your pics but I'm going to anyway, lol

I had to yell laughingly at my hand to get myself to click: "Send damnit!"

And I realized it wouldn't be such a big deal anyway, I'm just giving her a complement, which I hope came out right: I said
In this one, you look tired and yet still so pretty

She put this on the internet? Likely she expects for people to be looking at it and it's probably not a big deal to comment, especially something posative like her being pretty.

This is my opinion, I don't actually have personal experience with the situation but I have observed that this does occur.

This pretty much supports your reasoning, but it's straight from me to you, your post not having any impact on my what I'm saying.

Thing about flirting is it doesn't have to amount to anything. It's just kinda fun, and it might get you somewhere.

Well, she logged on at 3 in the morning to accept a friend request evidently but she didn't respond to my comment like she normally does to people's comments. Maybe I said it the wrong way or something? Or maybe she wants to bring it up in school today. XP

Or maybe it was that little part about it being out of the blue. NTs don't tend to address it I think and they find it weird when people do.

or maybe it was 3 in the morning and she was tired?

Bro, stop analyzing it. Just roll with the flow

There's a 90% chance she's not worth your time anyway. You're prematurely glorifying her when you spend that much energy on the thought of her. I know because I do it too (tho I'm getting better).

Oh, and remember this: "What you think of me is none of my business."

I probably didn't even need to say the first part, I've commented on her other stuff randomly before as well.


And I can't help but freak out.

I can't tell if it was good or bad, she hasn't said anything but she was looking at me a little bit when I saw her in the hallway but I looked away purposely. I think she was also looking at me when I turned in my paper today as well. Seemed like she was looking at me like 3 times just before class got let out at the end of the day but it could've been the arm of the kid she was talking to.

She changed her profile pic to a pic of her and her friend who is a guy (it was re-uploaded) so maybe that is some kind of a deterrent. At least she kept my comment.

Obviously based on prior experience and the little I have to go on, I'd say it was a bad move. Back to no one I guess. But I still got a free broken Zune today to fix.

O.K., so her cousin commented on the same pic a few days ago and she commented that one right back as usual. Then today she changed that same picture to her main. I find that odd because she didn't respond to what I said, which would make me think it was creepy of me to do in the first, which would make her associate that picture with creepiness, and she set it as her main which completely contrasts with that theory.

Over-analyzing is fun, lulz. It is all about the subtlety after all, right?

she did not comment back because

a) the comment was irrelevant and did not ring any bells in her head
b) she does not know you well enough to feel comfortable commenting back

i'm an aspie and i struggle with the same kind of questions all the time.

Face it, you'll never date her.

She is interested, make a move, show her that you are interested... otherwise she will get mixed signals and loose interest...

Here is an idea, think of 3 things about her that stands out to you, next time you see her, make a comment about one of those things... do that then leave it at that and go about to something else...

She has pretty eyes?, you like how she does her hair? next time you see her, dont make it obvious that you go out of your way to talk to her, then she will see you as desperate or as a clingy type... remember she wants you to appear to be the stronger one... not the other way around, big turn off...

casually create a situation in which you can talk to her like pass her in the hallway, say something like, "your hair looks nice today", then go on down the hall way... it shows her you're interested but also confident... If she is interested, and from what I can gather what you wrote so far, she is interested a bit... this will encourage her to be a bit mroe open and increase the likelihood of her approaching you in return...

You paid her a compliment and if she is interested, she will be obliged to return the favor... if it goes that far, build on that....

Give it a try, worse case scenario is she says no or is not interested, BUT you have a bit more experience now for the next one...

She will not date you right away, nope... but if you can cultivate the right situation, it is possible... And she has some interest in you... She seems to be a bit reserved... right where you want it if you know what to do...

pm me anytime... I am here to help a fellow aspie...

Unless the pic wasn't meant to be publicly seen there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn't comment on it.