is there any chance that this math prof has interest in me?

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i like him A LOT. i want to date him. i get accomodations from the disability resource center, but i handed in my exam form late, but my prof tried to tell them to overlook the late form and he was saying how it is sh***y of them, they're as*holes, and he's a bit annoyed and pissed off. i thought he would just tell me to write it in class. i think he's being really nice. would i even be able to date him even if i just pass this course? i also failed the last one, but he said he would work out something. taking my other failed exam and not couting this one that i failed lol. he is 15 years older than me, but he's very handsome, slim, witty, humourous, nice, maybe tall, very hot, maybe athletic and sensitive. he is not an aspie at all, but i am. he seems like one of those guys that are extremely intuitive and social.

could it possibly be that he likes me that he's trying to help me even when i handed in the form late? i mean i assume other profs wouldn't even bother about a late form. i told him that i could write it at the department, deferred or just in class. i was thinking that he's trying to help me because i failed my last exam and i went for help a lot recently.

he also told the class that there's a math info session about careers with math degree the day after i asked him if i could go into engineering with a math degree. is this just a coincidence or did he actually research the session for me or as my roommate said, he might have thought that this session might be useful to other students as well.

you are attracted to the power relationship. of course he would have sex with you and have an affair. does it have any future? i doubt it. maybe you can find a math TA or a fellow nerdy math student who is also handsome and likeable?

sorry for being blunt..

Most universities have a clause in the contracts of their teaching staff that sexual relationships with students will get a lecturer fired. The clause might apply only to students within the same department, or students a lecturer is teaching. In practice, a sexual relationship may be tolerated unless the student complains, but even without being fired, there are so many potential problems that you have to expect a lecturer to be extremely wary of getting romantically involved with a student. At least those lecturers who use their brains for thinking instead of their hormones.


The information you give is not enough to judge whether your prof is just a dedicated teacher who wants to help a student who's struggling, or just thinks you are someone nice, or takes a romantic interest. The first two are more common, the information you have given is equally compatible with all possibilities, so the probabilities don't favour him wanting to date you. Even if he is interested, he is unlikely to make a pass while you are in his course. If he did make a pass at you while you are still in his course, it would most likely be a bad sign.


I have met many who would.


I think the last is the most likely.

I'm sorry I can't be more encouraging. With the information you gave, I can only guess. What I told you are my best guesses. If you want to be certain, you will have to ask the man, but if you do that, you better wait until he is not teaching you any longer. And be prepared for a rejection. A priori, the probabilities are against you. The information you have offered is nowhere near to being conclusive enough to show that your prof is taking a romantic interest in you.


You don't know that. Presenting that guess as fact goes far beyond the data.


There is no "of course" about it. I know a lot of profs, but I can identify only one who had sex with a student. That prof was caught having sex with a student at a party. The student claimed to have been too drunk to remember, so she didn't file a complaint, and the witnesses thought it was her business to decide. Later the same prof tried to seduce a student's girlfriend. The second case is not covered by the regulations, because the girlfriend was not herself a student in the department. But a friend of that woman went to the prof and told him if he ever tried this again, she would make sure there'd be a complaint about the first incident, and he could kiss his job goodbye. I also know many profs who don't try to get into bed with their students. "Of course" is an exaggeration.

Sounds dodgy.

If you can, try and transfer the limerance to another person, preferably a student.

If it helps: just remember that you are probably not the only student that thinks he's cute. If you did end up seeing him, you'd have to cope with competition from other students like yourself.

The correct answer isn't about yes or no.

The correct answer is THIS IS A TERRIBLE IDEA. Stay away from this, stay away from him.

Does he have a wedding ring or not. May as well go for him....

THE ABOVE POST IS BAD ADVICE.

Go on - give me your wonderful moral reasoning as to why not.

*Prays it does not involve a Bible*

(incidentally - have you ever been laid? Just curious...)

this is going to be a traumatic relationship. stay away from him. it is ok to have a crush on a smart person with power, but to get involved with them will suck big time.

You have more power than they do, put it this way they are not going to want their colleagues to find out. Whatever happens, you win.

Have you ever tried to mix business and pleasure before?

Yeah - pretty much on my terms...

It doesn't need to be moral reasoning. Say that diehard and her prof have a relationship. When (not if) others find out, many people will assume that diehard only got help because she slept with her prof. Having a reputation for gaining favours in exchange for sex is generally a bad thing. People may even doubt her qualifications when she has a degree and applies for jobs.


You have to expect colleagues and other students will find out.


First, diehard doesn't know how her prof feels about her. He could reject her because he isn't interested. He could reject her because he doesn't want to lose his job. If she makes a move while he is still teaching her, he is most likely a slime ball. Would any of this be a win for diehard?

Even if he wants her and is a good man, in any relationship either or both can lose. It's more likely to happen when others put pressure on the people in that relationship because they object to the relationship. A lot of people would object to a relationship between prof and student. Even if diehard's prof felt as she does, the relationship would be more difficult than most others. Lots of things can happen that mean nobody wins. I think your advice is reckless.

UNLESS MY IQ IS LOWER THAN 120, IN WHICH I ASSUME MOST ASPIES ARE NOT UNDER AND I AM ONE, I WOULDN'T APPROACH HIM IN A ROMANTIC MANNER UNTIL THE POINT WHERE I WON'T HAVE AN ACADEMIC RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. im planning to add him to my msn after my result and chat with him regulary and get to know each other more, then i'll go into the main idea. such a cute boy. awwwww. i love him so much. anyone have any other ideas on how to approach him romantically other than not approaching him.

Even so, having a relation with ex-students is oddly seen in some parts of the world. (Not that it's prohibited, but people might just look at you oddly).

You aren't from around these parts, are ya.