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Well, I'm wonderight what I should do..
You see, theres this girl I really like, and have for a while..
I'll give you the story:

I met her in early 2006 sometime, she is my best friends sister...He's cool with the fact that I like her, but I can kinda tell he's a little uneasy about it..
anyways
I knew her for about a year, and then I moved from Melbourne, AU to The Woodland, CA(I was born in USA) for about a year and a half. During this time I talked to her quite a bit on MSN and such. J***(best friend) said that she thought I was a really cool person at one point, and well, Me and E*** were pretty cool with each other.
But around mid/late 2008 she dissapeared from MSN, stopped going on it. It was understandable, she didn't really like it, she thinks it's "fake" and I kinda agree..

Anyways, I talked to her maybe a few times from September till the end of the year.
January 5th I moved back to Melbourne and a few days later Vicsited J***. E*** was in the living room with her friends, she waved, acknowleging I was there, but she was watching a movie so she stayed quiet. Over the next few weeks I talked to her only limited amounts.
Now, When I had lived in Melbourne before, I had kinda liked her, but at the end of January I really started to like her a lot.
For most of febuary I didn't do anything, but I still didn't talk to her much except for the ocassional "hey"
March I started making attempts to hang around her a bit, get to know her again. However, this seems to have backfired.

2 saturdays ago, there was this Kew festival and her band was playing for half an hour, so My friend M*** and I, as well as many others went. We later all(inclluding the band) went around Kew for a bit then headed into the CBD. Then around 2 the groups split up.
Up untill this point I had been fine, however, instead of staying with my friends in the city, I went with her and her friends back to her house(which is also my best friends house, he was there, so this was fine at this point) by this point I managed to get her phone number, which was good. However, instead of hanging out with my best friend.. I start hanging out with her and her friends(who are a pretty tight knit group, automatically making me the odd one out)(IT was also a group of three girls, again making me the odd one out) I was just trying to know more people, and hang out with her, but she didn't seem to be taking this well, and while I was talknig with her friends, she was acting pretty strange and seemd to be avoiding me. After about half an hour of this I decided to jsut visit J***. About 15 minutes later they came in, and then after like a 1 minute silence I said" So.....Um... Anyone, like.. wanna have a conversation? " Which of course...you're not supposed to say that. About half a minute later both her friends left. She stayed another 30 seconds where very few words were said and then she left.
The next day R***** had talked to her at school and he said that she was kinda pissed off/freaked out about yesterday... Of course...I take it quite seriously, though he did note that she tends to just 'say' stuff...still.. not a good feeling.
I was over again the day after since it was J***'s 18th and she seemed to completely avoid me. However, I was over again thursday(forgot the reason) and she didn't seem to avoid me, I didn't feel that negative vibe from saturday or monday either.
So last saturday was J***'s 18th birthday party. I didnt really see E*** till later at night when he had booze.
I had a few beers, I was enjooying myself, talknig with people( I didnt really talk to her though) and then some idiot gave me Absinthe. I didnt know what it was and chugged some, thinknig it was jsut like 25%..not the strongest alchohal out there... Thankfully by this time she went home... cos I got drunk(lesson learned: dont drink stuff you dont know) and started throwing up and passed home. J*** had to carry me home. I puked in their backyard and passed out again. In the morning Im hungover bad and have a big bruise on my head... she was outside so I talked a little bit.. At least I learned I didnt do anything stupid while she was still there.. but still.. I later went home...
Today, R***** says she asked what happened to me, he talls his own story of what happened(accurate but the horrible truth ) and he sais she just rolled her eyes.. and thasts all I know

So 1 weekend I get too drunk and cant handle myself, puke in their yard.
another I freak her out.

Help please?

P.s. sorry if this is a long

Well, S-Mac, there's really no fixing this. At least not right away. Rightly or wrongly, she thinks you're kinda a dork. And unfortunately, trying to convince her you're not one never seems to work out well. So for now, just keep your distance. Don't avoid her, but don't go out of your way to see her, either. You need a little time distance between now and later before you test the waters again. Go out with some other girls, if you can. Girls are funny creatures; it takes another girl going out with a guy before they see the guy as worth going out with.

I'll see if I can find someone else..problem is I don't really know too many people.
But I'll give it a shot. Thanks for your input.