Can someone please help me understand?

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Hi

I really dont understand. ive been with my boyfriend for over two months now and i love him so much and he makes me so happy. He is amazing. But, recently my ex has been messaging me.

It took me a long time to get over him and somtimes i dont think i fully am. When me and my boyfriend first started going out, i asked my ex if he loved me,, he said he never loved me...

Recently my ex has been emailing me saying he misses me and on facebookhe sent a message to my inbox saying he was jealous of the picture i had of me and my boyfriend. I also had a dream about my ex, where he kissed me despite me saying i had a boyfriend whom i loved.

i really dont get it. i love my boyfiriend, and whilst i think i have still have some feelings for my ex, i believe the feelings i have for my boyfriend are stronger. But when he sent me the messages i couldnt help but feel happy, but then guilty because of my boyfriend. Also, in my dream i felt happy despite a little bad because of my boyfriend, but i woke up feeling terrible.

Please could someone help me. there are some days where i think i have never been happier than i am now with my boyfriend, but there are some days, where i am thinking about my ex.

Thank you

xxxxxx

You should stop communication with your ex or you get into risk loosing your boyfriend when he find out that you are in contact with him.
And what boyfriend is your ex anyway when he said he never loved you. It seemes like he just want to provoke you in your relationship with your new boyfriend.
Try to let him go and dont feed his attention. Your dream tells clear confusion in this and that you have to make a choise in between them.
You havent been together with your current boyfriend for long time at all so your relationship with him is still fragile. Dont risk anything and stay trustful towards him!

DONT REPLY TO YOUR EX at all!! !! ! ignore him like he was dead.

We don't know what we've got until it's gone, and for your ex, he's realising what he let go.

If he was callous enough to say he never loved you, he's not worth your time.

And as the above post said, if your current boyfriend finds out about this, you're going to have TWO exes to have feelings for.

So I'd leave it if I were you.

Talking to an ex or someone else who has an obvious romantic attachment to you is the surest route to destruction of your current relationship. Stop it, while you can.

Your ex-boyfriend is obviously attached to you but if he said directly that he didn't love you, then that isn't going to change in a big way just because you're gone. He might miss you but that's not love. Going back would cost you your current relationship and put you into a shallow rebound relationship.

For everyone's sake, you'll have to break off contact - and if necessary block him from your facebook. It's the only way that he'll be able to get over things and move on. If he learns, then perhaps he'll treat his next girlfriend better.

Don't worry about the dreams, nobody can control dreams and it's quite common, especially for females, to have dream fantasies about this kind of thing. It doesn't mean that you don't love your current boyfriend.

Girls always wanna bring their ex back into their new relationship and it always ends up destroying things. Your ex is your EX. You don't owe him anything. He has no rights to get and answer from you. Best cut him out completely. Don't reply to him at all. He will get the point eventually.

Enjoy the feeling that your ex is missing you but don't hurt your boyfriend over it. You seem appealing because someone else has you now. Keep your ex your ex and love the man your with.

your ex is hoping that little shot of guilt will make communicating with him feel 'dangerous' in an 'adventure' sort of way. if you like that shot of guilt, you might want more of that feeling and the more you mess with your ex that guilt will morph into what you think you are feeling with your ex. I am saying that THEN you will feel your ex is exciting, when it is only you being foolish and jepardizing your current relationship.

Then when you think you are 'following your heart' he will drop you like a rock. And you will be paying for your addiction to that feeling. Did you break up with your ex? or he with you?

Merle

$5 he is horny and wants a root.

I used to be aweful for doing that to ex's when i was younger... Ohhhh i msis you, I still love you etc. All lies to get another peice of the pie.

As everyone is saying, there is a reason he is your ex and by god whatever you do DO NOT tell your current that your ex has made contact. He will react in a way you won't see coming

Ugh. I've experienced that. Okay. This is all coming from my experience:
I was going out with Ex and I got away from him and later, started going out with New. Ex had a hard time getting over it and I did too, but didn't let it bother me. Ex started telling me he missed me so that conflicted my feelings for New so I felt totally lost. Ex started using (unknown to me) what appears to be emotional abuse to get me back, even going as far as something I won't say which really did a lot of damage. What I ended up doing was breaking up and cutting off from both of them while I sorted through the matter.
Sadly, it did not have a happy ending with either of them. Ex used his little power over me and I unfortunatly cheated on New (by kissing Ex, confused at the time) and when I broke up with New, I soon picked Ex over him. Ex had a good hold of me for quite some time and I didn't escape from him again until I found another guy (and current boyfriend) Luv. Luv helped me break away completely and now Ex doesn't have a hold on me anymore.
My theory is the dreams are caused my confused feelings about the two. I would suggest you think about each of the boys. Why'd you break up with the first one and would you want him back after the reason you broke up with him. Also, think about why you like your current boyfriend. See what works best. If you get too conflicted, then it might be benificial for you to break away from both until you can figure it out. Good luck to you. -Power Girl

Holy crap.
Why do people do this.

Just ignore him and stay with your current boyfriend.
Simple as that.

Hey guys,
thanks for the advice. My boyfriend knows i am in contact with him, however. I was upset and told him about the messages i had been getting and even the dream. I told him that i understood if he wanted to leave me. He told me that he was here for me, and that he wasnt gona leave me as he loved me and knew that i loved him.
However, he did say that it was up to me what i decided to do, but he thougt that it was a good idea removing all contact. He told me that he didnt mind me taling to him but was scared that my ex would say something which wouldd ruin us.
the only problem is id think id find it hard to remove contact. hm i did reply to his message asking him why and he said he wished he could bethe one holding me.
i love my boyfriend, i really do. its just so confusing...