First Date and future dates on a budget

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Miyah
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26 Mar 2009, 1:22 pm

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I decided to test the waters with a guy who has a lot in common with me and we have a lot in common. Moreover, he is Asperger's and is very sweet. However, he has a limited income and is writing grants for a non-prophet company. So, I was planning on taking him on a nature hike next month which he has already decided to go on. Moreoever, I was planning on a double-lunch date with another couple, eating at home where everyone brings something. However, I do not know what to cook for him and I would like some ideas.

Also, does anyone else have any other ideas as to what might be a good idea for go dates?



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26 Mar 2009, 1:31 pm

Well, for starters what kind of food does he like?

As for inexpensive things to do on dates, um I guess there's a variety of things to do... I like picnics. If dogs were a shared interest I'd bring my dog.


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26 Mar 2009, 1:31 pm

Miyah wrote:
Recently,
I decided to test the waters with a guy who has a lot in common with me and we have a lot in common. Moreover, he is Asperger's and is very sweet. However, he has a limited income and is writing grants for a non-prophet company. So, I was planning on taking him on a nature hike next month which he has already decided to go on. Moreoever, I was planning on a double-lunch date with another couple, eating at home where everyone brings something. However, I do not know what to cook for him and I would like some ideas.

Also, does anyone else have any other ideas as to what might be a good idea for go dates?


My take on it is this. Is there food that all four of you can agree on and can eat (barring certain food allergies, diabetes, etc.)?


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26 Mar 2009, 1:33 pm

He likes Hamburgers but I was thinking of something down the line of either Italian or Asian. However, I will have to ask him.



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26 Mar 2009, 1:38 pm

Stinkypuppy wrote:
Well, for starters what kind of food does he like?

As for inexpensive things to do on dates, um I guess there's a variety of things to do... I like picnics. If dogs were a shared interest I'd bring my dog.


There you go! If you both like dogs....a picnic at a dog park? Or maybe a day at the zoo?


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27 Mar 2009, 5:17 am

Does you both like cooking? You could try baking a cake together... that's generally a lot of fun. You could even have a cup of tea and a slice of cake afterwards. Either that or you could try cooking a meal together. Also climbing trees is a rather awesome evening activity in the summer. If you have a lot in common think about what you both enjoy and do that... if there's a good pub nearby you could go for a drink or two - so long as you don't drink too much it'll not be too expensive. Watching a film could work too if you've got some dvds, especially if one of you has one you think the other person would like but hasn't seen.



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27 Mar 2009, 5:43 am

Miyah wrote:
Recently,
I decided to test the waters with a guy who has a lot in common with me and we have a lot in common. Moreover, he is Asperger's and is very sweet. However, he has a limited income and is writing grants for a non-prophet company. So, I was planning on taking him on a nature hike next month which he has already decided to go on. Moreoever, I was planning on a double-lunch date with another couple, eating at home where everyone brings something. However, I do not know what to cook for him and I would like some ideas.

Also, does anyone else have any other ideas as to what might be a good idea for go dates?


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you can ask him directly what he likes to eat and you can even cook together - a good bonding experience. for dates, you can just take walks together, sit in a park, watch TV together.


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27 Mar 2009, 6:18 am

Going to museums and art galleries is usually free. If you can get on a guest list for the first night of an art exhibition they usually have an opening night reception, with free wine and sometimes nibbles too! ;)

Depending upon where you live, are there any television or radio stations with studio facilities? If so, maybe you can get free tickets to be in the audience when they are recording programmes, current affairs or sitcoms or whatever you're interested in. If there are tv/radio studios nearby, try to Google individual programmes you're interested in, or perhaps just phone their main switchboard and ask them to put you through. I went to a comedy night at a comedy club that was being recorded for radio, a friend of a friend was one of the comedians.

Not free, but cheaper than usual, if you want to go to see a play at the theatre, check the pricing, because a Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday night is possibly going to be cheaper than Friday and Saturday, sometimes they have two-for-one offers. If he's Aspie, is he formally diagnosed? I ask because sometimes theatres have discounts for people with disabilities. When I was in receipt of disability benefits because I couldn't work for a few years (a physical thing, not AS), my local theatre had a two-tickets-for-the-price-of-one for disabled people. I think it was probably meant for 'carers' or companions, but heck if they were going to give me a free ticket, I was going to use it, so I used to go with a friend who was an actor who loved theatre. Alternatively, before the first night of a new play there's usually a 'press preview' night. I guess this is kind of like a final, final dress rehearsal, and the tickets are sometimes about half price, so you get to see it before most other people, and it's cheaper! Just ask the booking office if they have a press preview night. You don't usually have to be a member of the press. Yes, there will be some journalists and critics there to review the play, but they also need random audience members to make up the numbers so they're not playing to a half empty house.

Another possibility is just check the listings in your local newspaper - there may be some pubs or bars that have live music or comedy nights where the entertainment is free. This will probably be earlier in the week, not at the weekend, because they don't need to try so hard to attract customers at the weekend, but you might go to a bar on a Monday or Tuesday night if there's a gig on. Although the entertainment might be free, you'd need a bit of money to buy a couple of drinks, but it needn't be that expensive.