how to deal with Breakup depression

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does anyone know how to handle the post breakup depression

Use google noman! this is what I found. http://www.ahealthyme.com/topic/depbreakup

I used beer, but I can't really recomend that.

I am a little unconcluded about the effects alchohol as on people who are lonely.

But for me loneliness is the worst thing ever, and alchohol makes it much worse. It is the same for a friend of mine to. I cannot touch alchohol at all.

This has led me to conclude that of one can drink alchohol while very lonely, they cannot be that lonely at all

Well Aspie_Chav, we're all different. Whatever works for you.
Besides, in a breakup situation, it's not loneliness so much as horrible pain. If you were just lonely, you could go hang out with people and it would be all good. But that pain, anything to dull it.

the link sounded good, but lets be honest -- I can't read all of that.

Beer is pretty good. But not to be abused. (Liquor is to be abused j/k)

Whenever I suffer a loss (that I care about) in my life I try to take it one step at a time, be it the death of my mother, the murder of a girlfriend (or breakup -- I was never convicted), etc blah blah, I just tend to say "I am [inset self name here], I am still here. Let's see how today goes." Or something to that effect.

I hope you cope well, sorry but I don't think many of us can be much help. There isn't a button or drug (alcohol ) one can take.

(Seriously, don't abuse alcohol, lol)

While I never had to go through with breakups, I did have one serious bout of rejection depression that I eventually got over by growing up... well I can't say I got over it, but was able to suppress it...

^^^ Brings up a good point. I was seriously depressed for about 2 years (to the point where I didn't think my life was worth the electricity it took to have the tv make sound -- so I kept it on mute. Good thing is I can laugh about it now) and I got to say, I just grew out of it.

So keep in mind that no matter HOW you feel now, things WILL get better. Things ALWAYS get better (Unless like, you get shot in the head, so stay away from thugs <3)

The horrible pain is most probably chronic loneliness. It can be a mistake to call chronic loneliness depression because a cure for depression may not be a cure for chronic loneliness.

Find another interest.
Also, cliche but true: time heals all wounds.

I wouldn't call that true... in my case, while age and maturity has allowed me to control surface emotions, my feelings of love only get stronger over time, and don't subside...

I've been there, so I know what kind of pain you are going through. What I did, was try to keep myself busy. Sitting around by yourself, alone, will only make things worse.

In my experience, time is the only cure. But in the meanwhile, distraction works as well as anything. Try to do things you enjoy... something that will take your mind off the situation for as long as possible. And gradually you'll find you need to do this less and less.

Well, when you have 9 years of your life falling apart, you can call it whatever you want.
Not that I'd wish that on anyone.

Speed through town and bust the cop in the nose for hassling you if you get stopped. You'll quickly forget about your breakup.

^^ Lol, kind of like the cure for a foot in pain is to slam your head into a wall?