There's This Girl

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ther's this aspie girl that I chat with and she doesn't have a piture on her wp or anything. I have no problem with that. she wrote me here on wp telling me that she wanted to chat with me..we are the same age. she's cool. She asked me if I have a webcam for this one site, but I told her I dont not have one and my mom wouldnt like it. i asked her can she send me a picture of her for i have a picture of myself and she says I'm cute. I want to see a picture of her.

she told me 'no Im shy"
and then I asked like 3 more times and she said the same thing. Then I said "One day you're going to have to send me a picture"

she said. "excuse me but I don't have to do anything" and later on in the conversation she told me she was being sarcastic. I'm not sure if she was.

Anyways I dont understand why she insists that i get a webcam when she can't even send me a simple picture of herself. what's up with that?

SHE will decide if she want to send you a picture. SHE DOES NOT WANT TO so stop trying to make her. you have to learn to let go of trying to shape people into what you want them to be, learn to be ok with losing control over her, and learn to accept what she wants. it's a common aspie hang up, dude, you will learn.

i would just email her and say "I'm sorry I said "One day you're going to have to send me a picture""

what if I told you, "Jemir, one day your are going to have to tell your mom NO and get a webcam whether you and your mom like it or not." how would you feel? you'd feel that I don't accept you or respect your opinion. Don't you want people to respect you and accept who you are? This autistic girl wants it too. So if you accept that she is shy and does not want to send you a pic, she will feel accepted and your friendship shall be advanced.

Just let the picture thing drop and don't mention it for awhile. However, if she mentions a webcam, just say that you won't even try to get one until she shares a photo. Fair is fair. Also, is she willing to put herself on a webcam for you? Unless you both are using one, I don't see why you should alone.

In the meantime, just enjoy writing and getting to know each other.

If someone kept asking me for a photo I would refuse and if they kept asking me then I would probably just get pissed off.

Are you guys chatting as friends? Then a picture isnt even necessary at all.

Unless you two are heading the way of of an Internet relationship.

I strongly recommend not doing this =/

As you probably know, your statement can be taken two ways which are hard to distinguish in a purely textual conversation. I might take some flak for this, but you can take advantage of her aspie-ness, her uncertainty of if she reacted properly or not, and get her to take it the cute way rather than the creep way.

who cares if its creepy.

Really? And what exactly is the non-literal interpretation? Isn't it obvious he felt he did something wrong by saying that?

Just remember that if you send her your pics first, she might not send you hers. I said "might not", so you never know, but in my experience, people don't do what's fair. Either way, I'd stick with the rest of the advice you're getting and not worry about he picture situation, just talk to her and get to know her a little.