Subtle Ways to Hint Interest?

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Okay, I feel kind of silly writing about something like this. I haven't felt attracted to anyone in years.
But I'm starting to find myself interested in someone, lately. I don't know this person very well. We talk a little almost every morning, usually sit together in language arts. Just casual, friendly small talk in the morning.
I have not noticed any obvious signs of interest in this other person, so feelings might not be mutual. I would like to show some interest, but because of this, I don't want to do anything too bold or obvious. I have never been a good flirt. I'm bad at noticing romantic cues from others, too.
Anyone have some advice?

What are his interests? How much do you talk about in your small talk, I say thing right now is to try turn the small talk into more, and develop a bigger friendship then you'll have more of a clue if he's interested.

If he's an aspie, screw the subtlety... he won't pick up on it... though in such a case, don't be so overbearing...

Play footsie!!


kidding...




um.....hmmm......


Ask...him out?

Try talking to him more, possibly give a bit more smiling and giving basic stuff like that, that's the best to do without getting flirty.

He is definately not an Aspie. He has very good people skills and alot of friends.

As for comments on talking more, and shared interests, we both do play piano. Sometimes we talk about music. Actually, he did bring up playing music together, along with another friend of his. I can't remember what the friend plays, though.

Still, the direct approach is a viable tool when making a pass on a guy... men have respect for such...

Dress in something nice-yet subtly seductive, and act like nothing is different (pretend if you have to). If you notice him paying more attention to you, try to engage in a little more "hands on" communication (a friendly shove, a high five, ect). At this point, there are different approaches to persuing the relationship. This method worked on me by getting my attention, if you feel like giving my advice a shot, I'd be more than happy to tell you everything I know.

Talk about him. Find out what he's really interested in and ask him questions about those things. Listening to someone is the best way to get them interested in you.

See, my problem is that I'm really bad at making small talk. After "Hello, how are you?" I'm totally lost. Besides that, we usually talk about either music or school. Or compare homework when its handed back.
There isn't always much time to talk, though. This particular teacher, she's a bit strict.
It's a shame that I only have one class with him. Actually, I have two, but during the other one he usually sits with one of the guys in his clique.
But he does want to get together to play music. So that should give more chances to connect...

Having him over is a great idea, I think that you should see how he reacts to being at your place. Just don't rush anything.

That would be a start. Act interested in him, ask questions, smile, be playful, try to get closer to him (if you are comfortable with this). The direct approcah might work as well, but if he is like me, he probably doesn't like a girl that is too forward, or pushy. if you are really uncomfortable, ask his friend what he thinks of you.

I know he doesn't like this, because once I saw another girl who was very giddy and silly and trying to act cute. He not only looked annoyed, but even a little disgusted at her behavior.

Oh, and as far as questions to ask, what are some ideas?

[Thank you all, by the way. I don't have anyone to talk about this kind of stuff with, and its nice to know I have somewhere to go when I need advice!]

You could ask what he likes to do for fun to get the ball rolling. Once you get to talking, you might have common interests other than playing the piano, and things can go from there. Also, I would ask some open ended questions to get him talking more, that way it will take some of the pressure off you. Also, don't be too serious, and don't ask any really personal questions...at least for awhile.

i would email them, that way you wont be so nervous when asking them to there face also just be all, "lets go to the movies" or whatever

I don't have his email. I guess I could add him on Facebook, but I feel weird adding people. And I never go on my account anyways.
I was thinking about asking him to the prom, but I overheard him today turning down another girl, because ANOTHER girl (I guess he's more popular than I realized!) already asked him.
It didn't really bother me though. I mean, it's a school dance. Not a lifetime commitment.
She seemed pretty bummed, though.