fancy this aspie guy at school, what to do?

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I have a good friend at school, he is about 18 months younger than me, and yes you guessed it he is also an asp. And for quite a few months now I have fancied him like mad. He is funny, talkative, very good looking, tall and we both have similar intrests and opinions on things. We have always got on and this year we became good friends and I hang around his mates alot.
I see him at dinner times at school and when we sit on the table he usually sits next to me and talks to me first, and he sits pretty close aswel. People have said they see "chemistry" between us, I'm not sure if he fancies me back or not but other people have noticed things.
I think I want to take it further and maybe ask him out but I don't have a clue what to do and I'm really shy with that sort of thing. So any advice from anyone? Should I start off by being flirty until we almost go out then ask him? Or should I dive right in?

Thanks in advance

If he's another aspie, he probably see your interest unless you've said it in words. Try just telling him in plain language (if it doesn't make you too nervous), and let him get comfortable with that first. If he likes you, and he knows that you like him back, he's more likely to have the confidence to make a move...

However, don't try to hit on him at this point (until a mutual attraction is established)... just keep it factual... if you hit on him, he might get defensive for any number of reasons... he may think you're trying to manipulate him, he may just feel squeamish about the whole idea of flirtation, or he may feel anxious that he's doing it wrong... the first one can be resolved once you gain his trust (without using flirtation), and the other two once he feels comfortable with you...

I say when When you feel good about just tell him as an Aspie guy myself I'm sorta clueless about other peoples feelings but I've never met another aspie in real life before so I don't know how or if aspies could or how they will sync together

i recommend this: be so blindingly obvious but not so much its like "ha ha very funny. >:("
i, for example would never make the first move. for example, am too personally vested to EVER have the guts to make the first move. i don't mind being called coward, because, at the end of the day, who is still alive? the coward or the one who heroically went to the front lines to kill the enemy (probably a bad metaphor... omg im getting distracted...) the point is, he probably is to shy to make the first move, so you should go and make your move. i reccomend reading the diary of don juan to see the male mind