Where was the stat talking about an 80% divorce rate from?

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I keep seeing this stat, and I'm Just wondering. I'd love to see where.

80% is too high, the numbers I've been hearing and sound more realistic are around 50%. Still a lot.
Long story short, don't bother getting married. You have a decent (and improving) chance of getting the short end of the stick

I dunno, I've been hearing somewhere around 60-70%, maybe a little higher.
But yeah, marriage in general is a complete waste of time at this point.

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I specifically remember reading somewhere that the divorce rate in parents of autistic children is 80%. I remember I got upset because that means that if I'd never been born, my parents would still be together.

I think the article was the one by Carol Sarler...but I don't remember for sure...

Well, don't be so hard on yourself.
Statistically speaking, had you not been born, someone else would of been born that was autistic (see: genes) and thus the future would unfold in a similar manner as it already has.
If you want to feel like crap though, had you been born w/o autism, there would of been a 30% chance that your parents would not have divorced. Considering that there was ALREADY a 20% chance that they stayed together and they failed to hit that statistic, I doubt they would of hit the +30% statistic of non-autism babies as well and probably would of ended up in divorce no matter what. Seriously, if they don't divorce over one thing, they'll just divorce over another. (If it's not autism, it's finances, or ex-relationships, or alchohol, or ......). It all has to do with personality and timing in my opinion. It's like a disease, and your personality "predisposes" you to a higher divorce rate.
Also, had you not been born your parents would not have been as happy together and probably would of divorced because of the "no kids" issue. If I want a kid and she doesn't, I'm not gonna just be like "Well, my wife doesn't want kids, so I guess I'll go without, oh well, sucks to be me." No, I'd most likely talk about this beforehand, but worst case she changes her mind and we divorce so I can have the kids I want.

I heard it was 50%.

That's only true for men. During marriage, a man has to listen to his wife yelling at him day in and day out, and never get any intimacy from her because she always "has a headache". And after a divorce, he loses his car, his house, the family dog, and the custody of kids, leaving him nearly bankrupt, yet still stuck with child support payments that the ex-wife can spend however she wishes.

For women on the other hand, marriage is a win-win situation. During marriage, she gets to yell and withhold sex. After a divorce, she gets half of her husbands assets, the custody of kids, and additional tax-free income (i.e. child support payments). Should the man be reluctant to marry her, she can easily "trap" him. And she gets to keep the ring.

In "Louder Than Words" Jenny McCarthy explains it why so many parents of autistic kids divorce and she became one of them. In her book, her husband was never there for her when her son was sick and in the hospital. While she was all worried about him, her husband was home all calm acting like nothing was happening. Also when Evan was diagnosed as autism, she put him on the gluten free diet and he functioned more normally and lot of his autistic characteristics were gone but when she went out of town for her book, her husband didn't follow the diet so he was back to him old self. He knew he was supposed to give him that diet but did he listen? No. I just thought he was an as*hole. Not being there for his wife and son, not supporting his needs and following his diet. That could be the reason why the divorce rate is so high and someone on here did say about lot of men are self centured, emotionless, etc. I bet lot of them are as*holes so they are that way. Lot of men hide their true feelings so they can't expect women to read them or know how they are feeling or understand them or else they are stupid for getting upset about it.