suggestion for a workplace-compatible approach

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hi, i've not been here for a while, in last months i managed to change my life a lot: now i don't live with my parents anymore, just got a new job ( guess what? it's IT related ), and i feel a lot better now that i have my_own_room...
Now i think it's time to fix the relationship side of my life. I met this girl when i got interviewd for this job, and we talked a little in the waiting room ( she is the assistant of the guy who interviewed me ). I think she might be interested, she said she was happy i got the job, and last week i was walking outside my workplace and she saw me from the other side of the street and smiled at me. i decided to try and invite her to pass the lunch break with me, but she works only in the morning, so it would be more a date than a casual "pass the break time".
How can i make my move? consider that however it will go, i'll have to see her for tha next 3/4 years....

I would strongly advise not looking for dating partners in the workplace. It usually leads to trouble. At least, from my experience.

Try joining a club, or taking a class that interests you and looking for dates there instead. That way, if things don't work out, you just find a new class to go to. It's much easier than finding a new job.

well, i just discovered that she is doing a stage ( don't know if it's the correct word in english, i mean she works for a few months without being paid to learn the job ) so the usual rule "don't date in the workplace" shouldn't apply here

If she's a temp (that's the English word), maybe it's not such a big deal, though you should know that a lot of temp jobs end up being temp-to-hire -- in other words, permanent positions. So be careful.

I would chat her up first to gauge interest. Then, lunch should be ok, but just a friendly lunch. I've done plenty of those, and they can be entirely work-appropriate, and a good way to judge if things will heat up.

no, but quite near to france.

"Intern" is the word in english, which means someone working at a job for free to gain experience. "Temp" is short for "temporary employee".