Friendly or flirty?

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What body signs can one catch that indicates romantic interest?

I have this girl in my class who smiles every time she sees me. This past Thursday, when she was approaching class, she smiled at me forcefully. Last week, I was sitting at the table eating after class. I saw her passing by. We had eye conatc for about 2 seconds then she smiled at me. I sometimes notice that she glances at me during class.

Is she interested, or is she just trying to be friendly?

Probably just trying to be friendly. A lot of neurotypical women frequently tell me (or complain, depending) that they are expected to smile a lot to be perceived as friendly and open, so they tend to do it a lot. I just nod my head or put my hand to my cap to greet people. But if she were flirting, she'd probably take it further, maybe touching your shoulder or something?

It depends. Does she smile at everyone like that, or does she tend to do that more just towards you? It doesn't really sound flirty, but maybe she likes you and she's shy? I wouldn't read too much into the looking at you then looking away thing though, I tend to do that all the time when I'm staring off into space, then I realize I've been staring at someone when they turn around, and I quickly get embarassed and look away.

Don't ponder this too much, you can't read her mind. Just have a few good conversations with her, and if you still feel encouraged, ask her for a coffee in a place nearby or something small like that.

I agree with Hector, It can mean anything. The only way to find out more is to talk to her.

smile back. Try to say hello. See where it goes from there.

Do not be shy. Most NT women are very approachable.

There are lot's of different ways to tell if someone is interested in you. Not all of them are definate ways to tell if they are romantically interested or not, though. I am good at reading people, but it's really hard to explain in words how I know. I'll give it a shot though.


*Does she find ways to touch you? This is usually a good sign, unless she is like this to everyone, then it could go either way.

*When she looks at you, does it feel like her eyes are "locked" on to you?

*Does she act different around you than she does other people? Some examples would be: she thinks it's funny when other people pick on her, but she gets upset when you do, or she is talkative and friendly with other people, but acts shy and nervous around you.

So basically, you are looking for differences from her normal behavior (say, with another guy that is just a casual acquaintance), compared to when she is around you.

This reminds me - when I'm at school, every so often I'll get a few of looks from some of the girls. It happens when I'm walking about the campus/hallways, and also when I'm hanging out at the library or sitting in class. Sometimes, I even get repeated glances when it happens in class or the library.
Now, I'm not actually interested in any of these girls, and I currently have far more important things to worry about (like my grades & paying my bills), but I'm still a bit curious as to what these glances are all about.