Girls convincing themselves that a date is strictly platonic

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This chick told me "I met a guy on Craigslist. It was NOT a date. He just posted that he needed someone to go to a romantic Shakespeare play with. That's all. We just met, but we did not click."

So here she is convincing herself that it was not a date, that a guy was simply looking for a buddy not a hook up. That she, a single lonely girl, was not looking for a guy to date. But in reality, she wanted a date, and knew that a man looking for a woman to take out to a sophisticated romantic play probably has dating in the back of his mind. If she does not think of it as a date, then, why would she even think about "clicking" with the guy?

Girls, do you do this?

Fellas, have chicks done that to you?

I find it hard to believe that someone would cruise craigslist just for someone to hang out with. It was not a "date" in her eyes only after the fact, and only BECAUSE they did not click; hindsight is 20/20.

The flip side, of course, is that she may have lied. Not everyone wants to admit they went out with a random dude on craigslist and ended up sleeping with him.

My RL buddy said chicks did this to him too - convince themselves that a date is not a date, so they don't feel rejected. Has this happened to you Amazon?

I don't play the "dating" game (and certainly not the craigslist game haha). I cultivate friendships, build trust, and if a girl wants more than that, it is purely her decision to pursue it. I am open to negotiations, for lack of a better word, but she has to make the first move.

It's a flawed system, to say the least But, like you, I am not a man of typical priorities.

If she finds you interesting or she likes you it's a date, it's not a date if she doesn't like you.

Apparently that was a pre-date interview, relationship screening service perhaps? Who says that there has to be either romantic or platonic interest or intent existent prior to the event? Could be a social date, could be something more, but there is nothing that says there is an obligation there.


M.

also girls convincing everyone and themselves that they tried hard and managed not to have sex with the guy they liked on the first date, of course, then it turns out that they did and that's why she thinks he did not like her afterward.

Many many girls want hook ups and just sex with no strings attached. They also want a lying cheating player over an honest guy.

My apologies for your experience; I completely disagree, L2S.


M.

Never had a date with someone i didn't think about bonking. The concept of meeting a random attractive person just to enjoy company seems very bizarre and weird to me. But then again..looks whose talking

some girl back in highschool tried to do this to me.... she dwanted to go somewhere, i cant remember, to go out but not on a date... just going to be a friends thing... she was bored and wanted to get out for the night...

I knew what she wanted, i reiterate taht she wanted to go out but as friends?

I then let her know what I wanted... if were going out it is going to be a date... i will be a jerk a bit, i will try to kiss you, maybe feel you up or swomething, you will resist and probally just hold hands and maybea bit smooching... nothing too serious but some fun...

She did not like that but then put it like it was going to be her way or the highway thing... I simply said ok, lets do it your way, buy you will have to find someone else.... because if were going somewhere with you, just the 2 of us... i am going to be a creep and want to see how much I can get away with before you get really mad at me.... then I left... yup, we did not go out that night... i went on and found something else to do... no longer interested, so found something else to do...

maybe I was too open and direct then...

they should not have sex on first date. but many, if not most, do, when the guys is someone they really like (not me)