The saga of my long-lost (and very first)ex gf

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08 May 2009, 6:33 pm

Well, I didnt see her IRL but here's the deal: This tuesday I was searching for information about people from my past who I havent seen or heard from in a long time. Mostly old friends, classmates, and even exes :?. I havent spoken to my first gf in 7 years despite seeing her walking down the street about 3 years ago. But I look her up on facebook and there is a picture of her in a pink gown holding a babe with some All-American looking douchebag of a guy sitting by her bedside! 8O
It lists her location as being Kansas City Missouri which is a far cry from Seattle Washington were we met and saw each other. I look her up on the internet white pages and there's no listing for her in Kansas City or the state of Missouri(all the listings are in Washington). I wonder if people can misrepresent their location on facebook. *Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh* I dont know why its so creepy to see her like that with a baby and another man but it is. :(



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08 May 2009, 6:44 pm

If this upsets you, then stop keeping tabs on her. It does no good to obsess over it.



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08 May 2009, 7:13 pm

I've had this problem too, the best thing you can do is erase every trace of her from your life. There is someting more suitable to replace her with.



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08 May 2009, 8:21 pm

Haliphron wrote:
Well, I didnt see her IRL but here's the deal: This tuesday I was searching for information about people from my past who I havent seen or heard from in a long time. Mostly old friends, classmates, and even exes :?. I havent spoken to my first gf in 7 years despite seeing her walking down the street about 3 years ago. But I look her up on facebook and there is a picture of her in a pink gown holding a babe with some All-American looking douchebag of a guy sitting by her bedside! 8O
It lists her location as being Kansas City Missouri which is a far cry from Seattle Washington were we met and saw each other. I look her up on the internet white pages and there's no listing for her in Kansas City or the state of Missouri(all the listings are in Washington). I wonder if people can misrepresent their location on facebook. *Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh* I dont know why its so creepy to see her like that with a baby and another man but it is. :(


You do know there is a Kansas City, Kansas, don't you?

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08 May 2009, 8:44 pm

I liked KC missouri better.



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08 May 2009, 9:40 pm

sinsboldly wrote:
Haliphron wrote:
Well, I didnt see her IRL but here's the deal: This tuesday I was searching for information about people from my past who I havent seen or heard from in a long time. Mostly old friends, classmates, and even exes :?. I havent spoken to my first gf in 7 years despite seeing her walking down the street about 3 years ago. But I look her up on facebook and there is a picture of her in a pink gown holding a babe with some All-American looking douchebag of a guy sitting by her bedside! 8O
It lists her location as being Kansas City Missouri which is a far cry from Seattle Washington were we met and saw each other. I look her up on the internet white pages and there's no listing for her in Kansas City or the state of Missouri(all the listings are in Washington). I wonder if people can misrepresent their location on facebook. *Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh* I dont know why its so creepy to see her like that with a baby and another man but it is. :(


You do know there is a Kansas City, Kansas, don't you?

Merle


Why yes. Kansas City is split between Missouri and Kansas. Ive never actually been there before but I havent heard good things about it. What Ive heard is that its a decaying, industrial city with a lot of run down neighborhoods and plenty of crime to go around.



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08 May 2009, 10:18 pm

Haliphron wrote:
sinsboldly wrote:
Haliphron wrote:
Well, I didnt see her IRL but here's the deal: This tuesday I was searching for information about people from my past who I havent seen or heard from in a long time. Mostly old friends, classmates, and even exes :?. I havent spoken to my first gf in 7 years despite seeing her walking down the street about 3 years ago. But I look her up on facebook and there is a picture of her in a pink gown holding a babe with some All-American looking douchebag of a guy sitting by her bedside! 8O
It lists her location as being Kansas City Missouri which is a far cry from Seattle Washington were we met and saw each other. I look her up on the internet white pages and there's no listing for her in Kansas City or the state of Missouri(all the listings are in Washington). I wonder if people can misrepresent their location on facebook. *Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh* I dont know why its so creepy to see her like that with a baby and another man but it is. :(


You do know there is a Kansas City, Kansas, don't you?

Merle


Why yes. Kansas City is split between Missouri and Kansas. Ive never actually been there before but I havent heard good things about it. What Ive heard is that its a decaying, industrial city with a lot of run down neighborhoods and plenty of crime to go around.


Nah its a nice city with some cool museums there are some rundown neighborhoods but i didn't see anything horrible when i was visiting.



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10 May 2009, 2:02 pm

You shouldn't be searching for your ex like that.
It was 7 years ago you said it yourself, and you havn't spoken a word since.
Let me say this, she has long past forgotten you.

Heck, she is even married now and has a baby?
The best thing, like some others said is to delete every trace of her existence and to forget her.



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10 May 2009, 3:13 pm

Tias wrote:
You shouldn't be searching for your ex like that.
It was 7 years ago you said it yourself, and you havn't spoken a word since.
Let me say this, she has long past forgotten you.

Heck, she is even married now and has a baby?
The best thing, like some others said is to delete every trace of her existence and to forget her.


I don't think he is into HER so much as he is bummed that it could have been him with the happy family.


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10 May 2009, 3:28 pm

sinsboldly wrote:
Tias wrote:
You shouldn't be searching for your ex like that.
It was 7 years ago you said it yourself, and you havn't spoken a word since.
Let me say this, she has long past forgotten you.

Heck, she is even married now and has a baby?
The best thing, like some others said is to delete every trace of her existence and to forget her.


I don't think he is into HER so much as he is bummed that it could have been him with the happy family.

Ah yeah, that to.
Thinking that the guy next to her could have been him.
: /



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10 May 2009, 4:39 pm

sinsboldly wrote:
Tias wrote:
You shouldn't be searching for your ex like that.
It was 7 years ago you said it yourself, and you havn't spoken a word since.
Let me say this, she has long past forgotten you.

Heck, she is even married now and has a baby?
The best thing, like some others said is to delete every trace of her existence and to forget her.


I don't think he is into HER so much as he is bummed that it could have been him with the happy family.


SO True sinsboldy! You're quite perceptive now and then. Quite frankly, I really DONT want her back and in general I dont want anything from her. Perhaps someday I will have a happy family of my OWN and I wont have a moment to spare for people in my past. But UNTIL then, it feels like the past is all I have until that someday becomes today. I remind myself that it happened before and so there odds are in favor of it happening again.



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10 May 2009, 9:54 pm

Tias wrote:
sinsboldly wrote:
Tias wrote:
You shouldn't be searching for your ex like that.
It was 7 years ago you said it yourself, and you havn't spoken a word since.
Let me say this, she has long past forgotten you.

Heck, she is even married now and has a baby?
The best thing, like some others said is to delete every trace of her existence and to forget her.


I don't think he is into HER so much as he is bummed that it could have been him with the happy family.

Ah yeah, that to.
Thinking that the guy next to her could have been him.
: /


but also with what he knows about her, he might be relieved it is not him. In retrospect, he now knows what he is looking for and she might have not had all those attributes. It's good to know thyself first and then get out there with a game plan.


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11 May 2009, 6:18 pm

sinsboldly wrote:
Tias wrote:
sinsboldly wrote:
Tias wrote:
You shouldn't be searching for your ex like that.
It was 7 years ago you said it yourself, and you havn't spoken a word since.
Let me say this, she has long past forgotten you.

Heck, she is even married now and has a baby?
The best thing, like some others said is to delete every trace of her existence and to forget her.


I don't think he is into HER so much as he is bummed that it could have been him with the happy family.

Ah yeah, that to.
Thinking that the guy next to her could have been him.
: /


but also with what he knows about her, he might be relieved it is not him. In retrospect, he now knows what he is looking for and she might have not had all those attributes. It's good to know thyself first and then get out there with a game plan.



Welllllllllllll, I suppose its better for me to believe that since I can NEVER have her again and will Never get her back.
Anyone remember this cheesy pop song from 20 years ago? Well, for me it tells the true story of me and my 1st gf:

:oops:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NwrL9MV6jSk[/youtube]



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11 May 2009, 6:53 pm

Haliphron wrote:
Well, I didnt see her IRL but here's the deal: This tuesday I was searching for information about people from my past who I havent seen or heard from in a long time. Mostly old friends, classmates, and even exes :?. I havent spoken to my first gf in 7 years despite seeing her walking down the street about 3 years ago. But I look her up on facebook and there is a picture of her in a pink gown holding a babe with some All-American looking douchebag of a guy sitting by her bedside! 8O
It lists her location as being Kansas City Missouri which is a far cry from Seattle Washington were we met and saw each other. I look her up on the internet white pages and there's no listing for her in Kansas City or the state of Missouri(all the listings are in Washington). I wonder if people can misrepresent their location on facebook. *Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh* I dont know why its so creepy to see her like that with a baby and another man but it is. :(


WHOA! You know what's really weird? After I read this, I got curious and went to look up some of my exes on Facebook. I look up my second girlfriend, and she's now in Kansas City, MO and holding a baby in her photo. No douchebag standing by her bed, but... wow... that's one heck of a coincidence.