Got a girl's number,nervous as hell!

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So I went to this party last Saturday night and when I drink I loosen up and become sociable(just like any one of us). I met this girl there and we chatted for several hours and we had a lot in common. I asked her out and she gave me her number and vice versa. After waiting Sunday I called today and left a message. I'm gonna call her again some time later or she might call me. I'm nervous as hell, any suggestions on how to chill out and chat with her?

Give her a chance to respond, try calling tomorrow

yah plus if you seem too intrested, she might loose intrest in you. goodluck

wait for her to call you back.

Don't try calling more than twice. After the second time, wait until she calls you first. Otherwise you'll come across as desperate, and girls are turned off by that.

sometimes ppl don't know what to say when they get a phone call or message.

But you should only call her once like you have done.....AND NEVER CALL HER BACK UNTIL SHE CALLS YOU!! ! if she doesn't call you back she doesnt wanna talk to you, if she does call you back then the next time call her.

make it a mutual relationship. she calls you, you call her, you call her, she calls you. Its no simpler than that. the first time she brakes that mutuality, then dont call her anymore. and ignore your emotions because they get people in a world of trouble.

I like jbinion's mutual idea.

You need a plan....

your vision is to? have a boyfriend/girlfiend relationship?

Call her tuesday... do not call the next day... it appears you're desperate and needy and/or clingy.... once you get that across, the red flags go up...

you called sunday?, call her tuesday.... get her to meet up somewhere again... but YOU decide where you both are going to meet up... they seem to like this in guys.. just dont be bossy or arrogant but rather like you're going to take care of her though....

call her up, be sure to talk about one or two things that you both talked about before... ask a question about something you both talked about, get her to interact and also this puts up big green flags... you're interested in her, but dont come off too clingy or needy... you know what you want, you stick to it....

call her up, say hello, how u doing, then go into a quesiton about something you both tlked about... rthen talk about a topic or 2.... then cut it off.. do not talk too long.... get her interested some more, but remember the call is not the end, but the means to get a second meet-up (date but dont call it that)... say something like, you got things to do but would like to meet up this weekend... This will be some more big green flags to her

because... she will see you as someone that is not clingy but has a life as well.... yorue a busy person with things to do... if she is interested in you (she is at the moment) she may miss out if she does not continue to hold your interest...


You want her to be interested in you to further the relationship.. .do not come off clingy, to not make the mistake of calling her a lot, if you call her, call her every other day...

also when you call her or she calls, do not answer her whenever she calls or when she leaves a message, do not call her back right away... call her that night, next day or so.... that will let her know that you have a life and are busy and that you are taking time from your life to spend time with her.. she will see this, bright as day.... and you will not appear clingy or needy...


Hope this helps

You should do counseling! Best advice in the world!

Don't worry too much or you'll sabotage it. Just be yourself, BUT, try not to be condescending or negative, don't say anything racist/sexist/homophobic. That's my only advice.

jbinion said it best.

She knows you called her. If she wants to talk to you again, then she WILL call you. If she doesn't want to talk to you again, then she won't call you. Don't take it personal. She probably wasn't worth your time anyway.

This is vital: If you're chatting with her, keep things nice and fluffy. NO (and I mean NO) serious issues to discuss (e.g. war in iraq etc.), just talk about totally un-interresting things, like the weather or something. Don't be too 'deep' (unless you have a REALLY GOOD indication that she likes 'deep' people).
Good luck!

and talk about her in compliments - like "you are very nice/clever/funny to chat to on the phone" etc

sounds too much like a contract to me :p

Nah it is easier to understand. Otherwise its she doesn't call yet, he tries calling her five time then leave a 10 minute rant on her answer machine.

true, but I'd feel too stressed out about thinking when my turn was and stuff. I'd probably keep calling anyway. or not call at all. lol