Giving up on love

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I have had it. I give up.

I think i have only ever fallen in love once and that was with my last ex.
Even my 4 1/2 year relationship i dont think i loved him. never felt anything for him.

But my recent ex omg. My heart wont stop aching.

I dont know what to do??

All i know is that love messes with my head and turns me into somthing i dont like.

So with that in mind...
I GIVE UP!

Try taking a break from relationships and the whole dating thing. Taking a break from something can also give you a new perspective on it.

I also got tired (but for other reasons) and stopped dating. Havent been on a date since 2006, i rather stay alone than with someone that i do not fully appreciate.

mmmmm i suppose thats true.

I mean its not like i dont appriciate them i mean i give them everything and its like they take advantage of me and i get nothing but missery back.

i mean in recent weeks i have given up so much that i dont wanna see anybody family or relationships wise

Lucky you. My feelings are so dumbed down, I'm incapable of feeling love like that. You might obsessing over your ex as well. Did you guys stay friends?

no we did not. I mean i miss him soo much but people keep telling me to move on.

Yeah that's hard.

I'm sort of in the same boat and you're right, it's easier said to move on than to actually move on.

Not sure if I can give much advice except take it slowly. Love isn't something that immediately happens. I think for me, it would only work better beginning in a friendship than right away. I've gotten very weird when "love" just happened automatically.

Very true.



I agree, time does heal these things. You can heal, but it takes time.

I too have given up. For years I was almost to the point of desperation to attract a mate. Then I ended up with a lying two bit whore and...yeah. I had my little experimentation with the opposite sex, and now I believe I am done for the time being. What little trust I had in humanity was shot to Hell with my last ex so it would be almost impossible for me to trust another person again.

*sigh* Viva la Xbox

I seriously doubt that you plan to give up, after all, almost everyone on this planet needs the comfort of another person romantically. Very rare is the person who can walk alone and do it with ease.

I said once that I would give up searching for love and just chose to be celibate. But after a week or two, I realized how much I was physically attracted to women, and therefore I knew I could not be entirely happy being alone for the rest of my life Even if ever woman I met and try to start something romantically with over time rejects me, I'll still go at it. After all, what am I really going to lose?

It might sound harsh, but maybe that's what you need:

The only difference between winners and loosers is that loosers give up.

I'm trying to give up on love and move on. I'm trying to realize just what a foolish investment and waste of time love really is.

But it's almost as hard as actually finding it.

I just have to remember that I should love myself and that I don't need or want anyone else to love me.

"loosers"? lol nvm
Don't give up on love! love is lovely.. i've had no partner/s in a long time but i haven't given up yet..
don't listen to me tho.

if it was ment to work, it would have worked.

put it down to experience and move on.

there are so many lovely gorgeous men out there it is a waste and a shame not to try some of them out

the pain will fade in time, try not to dwell on him, distract yourself.

sometimes these things are not ment and someone is not the right person for us no matter how much we wish they were.

the right guy is out there somewhere- go find him!

I agree with lotusblossum, she has some very valid points....

Also, there is someone for everyone... you never know where you'll meet the right person for you

I hate these kind of pleasantries because that's all they are. They are clearly not true.

maybe so but it is better to believe we have a chance no?
like christians "dreaming" of heaven :p