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29 May 2009, 12:57 pm

I never get what I want but at least I'm wanted. Two ladies have shown interest in dating me this year, neither of whose personalities nor appearances I found attractive.

One night when I got very drunk I had sex with a gay fellow though I'm heterosexual. I didn't find him attractive at all but the thought of making him happy gave me a vicarious pleasure. He took me a drag bar and a jazz bar and was very generous. He wanted to be my boyfriend but I couldn't bear the thought and lost contact with him.

Two other gay men expressed interest in me a couple of years ago and in that year I had a girlfriend for a week. I couldn't bear to be with her because we weren't on the same page or even in the same book.



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29 May 2009, 12:59 pm

good for you man.. i'm jealous&bitter, but trying to be happy for you :)



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29 May 2009, 2:00 pm

This may be controversial even here, but i'm not sure ASpie sexuality fits the norm. I identify as gay but on a regular basis fantasize about women. It sounds like you may have a personal and unique way of relating to others sexually and relationally, sounds like a challenge!


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29 May 2009, 2:54 pm

mikemmlj wrote:
This may be controversial even here, but i'm not sure ASpie sexuality fits the norm. I identify as gay but on a regular basis fantasize about women. It sounds like you may have a personal and unique way of relating to others sexually and relationally, sounds like a challenge!


I would disagree with that... I'm pretty much a straight-up straight guy... aspies are all across the sexuality spectrum just like NT's...



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29 May 2009, 2:57 pm

Sexuality is not binary straight/gay, but rather a continuum. This is why almost all customers of transsexual prostitutes or people who buy transsexual porn identify as straight (gay men are usually not attracted to transsexuals at all), and why some people are bisexual or can commit gay acts and still self-identify as straight. I don't particularly think this is an Aspie thing, but that Aspies might be a lot more likely to own up to it than the average NT.



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29 May 2009, 7:29 pm

billsmithglendale wrote:
I don't particularly think this is an Aspie thing, but that Aspies might be a lot more likely to own up to it than the average NT.
I think that's true for a thousand issues. It might eventually be recognized as one of the main Aspie traits.



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29 May 2009, 7:32 pm

...............wat? D: