AS girl + AS guy = ???

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I'm quite...simple when it comes to relationships. I can only imagine black people marrying black people and having black babies. I think this is the same thing.
When I think about the kind of guy I am going to end up with, I think of someone with Asperger's like me.
I think about how we won't have to have sex because neither of us are comfortable with it. I think about how we'll spend our nights together at home because we don't like going to busy restaurants and cinemas. I think about the fact we probably won't have any kids because of the stress involved.

All these thoughts make me happy, but is it realistic? Are there AS people who marry other AS people? Does it work out? As opposed to, say, a quote-unquote "normal" person?

I'm really curious.

I've got AS, unofficial, not on paper DX, but still a DX. Hubby is suspected AS. Since you're curious, yes, we have sex, but it does seem to be less often, maybe because of AS. We hang out, we try and go on one monthly date, though usually at four in the morning cause there's less people. We're both with the idea of having kids. Other people's kids, ones you caint control, those are the problem. Your own kids, not so bad. Now, I've only been married less than a month, was dating a bit over a year, so I may not be the best person to ask. But, I am one of the closest married to your age.

I don't think having or not having AS matters, it's a personality thing. I get on fine with plenty of non AS friends, as well as Hubby, but it's because of the people they are, not a DX. And really, when it comes down to it, marriage is two people being friends with benefits for life. Being there, hanging out, loving each other, it's all what friends do, just a little more meaningful. I think in about 5 or 10 years you'll find a good person. That's what matters, not a DX.

That's very reassuring. (And I love the idea of going on a date at 4am!)
I guess you're right about the personality thing. I think I catagorize people too much. I don't see people as "kind" or "sensitive" etc, I see them as "gay" or "on drugs" etc.
It's nice to know it can work, though. I think that's what I was worried about.

I might have to rethink this "dream guy" scenario

one would hope AS+AS= as good a chance as NT+NT, but i wouldn't know..
anything's possible.

Well, everyone is different, AS or NT, so it would probably depend on the person.

AS girl + AS guy = Awkward silence.

I'd say it could work. Every Aspie is different and I've heard of Aspie couples before.

How did I overlook that?
Are there no outgoing AS guys out there???? =(

(I'm glad most responses have been positive so far. )

"outgoing" is a strong word but i'm quite talkative

Talkative is good enough for me! God, I hate it when you're talking to someone and all of a sudden conversation just runs dry. I never want to be in that kind of situation again D=

yes uncomfortable silences are.. uncomfortable lol. have you seen Pulp Fiction?
i did vote for the last option though..

I've only seen the Hamburger clip xD why?
So you're the one who blemished my poll?! To be honest, I thought most people would go for the last option. I guess I am too young to be thinking about such things, but I'm a herm with a mature attitude so I'm bound to think about stuff like that. Oh, and I'm very scared of dying alone, so I guess that's a lot to do with it too o_o

there's a line about uncomfortable silences in Pulp Fiction, very good film.
anyways i guess i was thinking about "relationships" & such when i was 15 & i still am now, i think i just picked the most interesting option.
dying alone doesn't sound at all nice but living alone is not much fun either.
good luck to you.

I'll watch it.
Ah...to be honest, I would expect that. I think it's more of a gender thing. I mean, girls start preparing for relationships from the moment they pick up their first pretend baby doll, right?
Living alone is...not much fun...but hey, I have my parents for company...*retch*

Hey ajcoyne! when i was 15 i fell in love with the most wonderful girl ever! she was not an aspie i was dumb and didnt know about myself and i cheated and lost her. i dont know about 2 aspies but i do know that love is not about what you want its about what your willing to give! in my honest opinion you should be looking for a guy whos understanding and caring and not worry about anything ANYTHING else! good luck and long live the queen!

Wise words. It seems I have much to learn