Truth About Dating

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You are not meant to be lonely aspie guys. If an aspie girl has terrible social skills just like you, and she is not lonely and you are, you know its not your fault. She's a girl and its easier for her to get a gf. Guys dont care about social skills. Girls on the other hand want all this other stuff, and even if an aspie guy has many other good qualities, if he is not famous, rich, or has bad social skills, then he will have trouble with women.
It's not fair, i know. But thats the way it is.

I mean, why do aspie girls talk about craig nichols? BECAUSE HES FAMOUS. if he weren't famous, he'd probably be on this site right now talking like one of us aspie males. If you become famous, you are guaranteed to have women all over you. Some of the ugliest guys become famous with terrible social skills, lack of eye contact, and scared to talk to women, but they get girls because they are famous.

Its stupid, but thats how women think.
Do these men who approach aspie women really like them for them? well lets ask ourselves, do any of us like women for their personality?

HELL NO its all about the looks. We try to tell ourselves we like her personality, but then again there's always the problem of whether she has the looks or not.

So the NT guys who approach aspie women, we cant blame them for not looking for personality and only for looks, they are just like us.

the only reason we say we want an aspie female is because we feel that she will understand us better. BUT if we arent what shes looking for, regardless of our looks, she is going to turn us down in a heart beat.

men, all we want is looks, lets admit it, LOOKS, its all about looks. If it werent all about looks WE'D ALL HAVE GIRLFRIENDS RIGHT NOW

I know damn well that in an aspie man's life there was a girl who liked him to death, but he didnt like her because she was not pretty enough.

there are plenty of girls who liked me that i didnt like back because they werent pretty enough. They treated me with respect and accepted all my quirks. But no, us men dont think like that, we want a girl who is decent looking if not a model. We are sexual creatures since day 1. The girls who are pretty that i accept as a person she doesnt accept me because of my aspie quirks. She thinks im weird.

But am i really accepting her as a person or for her looks? she doesnt treat me right, but she is beautiful. Who she is, is a mean b***h, but i still like her because she's gorgeaous.

Maybe thats how it is with women, they like confidence whther or not the guy treats her right or not, so they get what they like out of the guy, and disregard how he treats her. Or many might just like him for his personality IDK


All i know is that if the aspie men on this forum liked women for who they were, we wouldnt be on here, because we would be attracted to sweet, loving, kind women, regardless of her looks, which is most likely hideous to us.

Im sorry the girls who post the most things on here about how they want an aspie guy, THEY ARE UNATTRACTIVE and they dont get approached by guys, but i bet they treat people with dignoty and respect, but life dont work that way.

Umm...

In all the trademark blunt aspie rudeness, I'm just going to go ahead and say you're wrong...

Aspie guys are alone because most women keep doing all this social BS that doesn't make any sense to us... aspie women don't have to deal with that because the NT man is also not that likely to want to deal with aforementioned social BS, therefore making aspie women even more desirable than their NT counterparts...

You're right I forgot to add that stuff in there. yea, an attractive aspie woman would be straight up, and not do social BS. Aspie guys, and NT guys dont liek social BS. and if a girl is attractive, and doesnt do social BS then we will be all over her. Thats one reason so many gusy like older attractive women.

But how many girls did you approach or approach you, that you liked that was unattractive and didnt do social BS?

re: Craig Nicholls- everybody loves a puppy- even a naughty one

spot on

You like him because he's famous that's all. If he were one of us on this forum and sent you a PM about dating, you would ignore his message, because he would be a nobody to you.

wait wait wait wait, HOLD ON!
who is craig nicholls?

and how do I find him in order to beat him up and assert my dominance as alpha male.

This very talented, probably has a nice personality, not a jerk, creative smart aspie musician/rocker. But if he wasnt famous, women wouldnt be able to see who he really is because of his quirks, and they wouldnt give him the time of day.

I have to say, being a famous aspie has its advantages, but women dont want to admit that they like him because he's famous.

i dont care though-somebody on this forum needs to tell the truth.

Yep, you're right Jemir.

Just googled him. OMG, he's so dreamy. Good bye heterosexuality, hello Mr. Nichols!

Last edited by willa on 27 May 2009, 6:11 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Oh, I'm not trying to make any homophobic jokes, serious question man. are u gay?

Yes i'm a man. A gay man now.


Theriouthly though, you're not missing out by losing a chance with a chick who will not give you a chance because you're not lead singing some here-today-gone-tomorrow pop rock band.

Yup, you are right man. i dont do that whole "Well, she's missing ouyt on me" thing, because no one is missing out on anything, if the relationship wasnt going to work because of non mutual attarction

And, the proportion of people who look at relationships from an aesthetic point of view is larger than it should be. You'll notice though, as you get older, it isnt as bad. Dont judge life based on high school life lessons.
Here's a lesson, get by in high school with good grades and dont worry about anything else, but as soon as its over, forget it all, becuase it's useless.

Jemir-I'm sorry, I was being goofy and you seem to be in a more serious mood. My comment was supposed to be tongue in cheek -"puppy" is a term women use for adorable but completely irresponsible men- You seem to be feeling a lot of frustration re: romantic relationships. I can feel your anger across cyberspace so it may be simply that you are scaring them away. Sometimes the harder you try for something the farther it slips away. I've come to the conclusion that I've spent a lot of time wishing I had something without really considering whether I could handle the strain of a constant social relationship- kinda makes me glad I'm already old and decrepit. This is what I think- find someone who makes you laugh.