Aspie females Getting into Relationships

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I might be wrong, from reading posts here and there it seems that the aspie females dont have much problems with getting into relationships, its always the aspie males that cant get significant others. I see many topics about aspie females and their trouble with relationships not have trouble with getting a significant others. In fact, there seems to be a lot of girls that marry early? As in many of them are able to start dating and find significant others not much later then your normal NT female or even around the same time?
Thats just the perception that I've gathered. Or are their many out there that have a lot of trouble finding a significant other and find it fustrating?

Similar. I think I could get a guy if I wanted to, but I seem to have a lot of trouble forming a romantic attachment to anyone. It only happens very very occasionally, and often the guy I do get attached to just so happens to be the guy who doesn't like me back.

So far, I've been in one relationship which spanned 7 months while I was 19.

It's biology, females are more picky than males. So dating in general is harder for males.

Yes, men with Aspergers are either oblivious to the fact that they are so eccentric when asking a woman out, and then get depressed about it, or don't care and push the envelope and get into strife. Whereas women with Aspergers can't tell whether a guy is asking them out just for a root or if they genuinely love them. Even some non-Aspergers women can't pick that at times, so what chance have those with Aspergers got. Obviously therefore, statistically non-Aspergers men will ask Aspergers women out a lot more often than Aspergers men will ask non-Aspergers women out. Hence the disparity.

Even the most eligible men are attracted mainly by looks, whereas women are a lot more complicated, they want to know about the man's income, personality, goals in life, and of course to a lesser degree, looks as well. Sux to be a man with Aspergers! Ah well

In breeding if a female and male get together for , because the female has the child it is more critial she picks the right partner, because she is going to get pregent and needs to be looked after etc... Where as a male doesn't.

Also if you think about genetics a male is less picky and has with many females. His genetics will be spreed out more. A female can't spread her genes out like that.

More males are born than females. In the age for pairing off, late teens through the 20s, there are more men than women. Women are also pickier, want it less, all contributing to an imbalance which dictates that there will be leftover men. Since the women are in greater demand, and therefore have more market value, their imperfections will penalize them less, and they can get away with being more demanding about other aspects such as income. Men with various imperfections, such as Asperger's, are likely to end up in the leftover group, hence a major cause of distress for them. The law of supply and demand dictates that men will value women generally more than women value men. Nobody is to blame for this, it's just how the numbers work out.

Female AS persons are usually more social in general.
This is a neurological difference.

Basicly the AS person is more "System builder" and less "Social Interactor"
The male brain is generally more wired towards the "System Builder" type and the female the "Social Interactor" so it's just natural for AS-females to be better at social interactions than AS-males.

Also men flirt with women far more openly than women with men so it's easier for AS-females to notice advancements whereas us AS-males usually are even more oblivious than NT-males when it comes to girls flirting with us.