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05 Sep 2005, 9:15 pm

My parents are trying to force me to make friends with people in school. I have nothing for these people, and they all have their friends. I have my friends, they all go to different schools and I'm pretty content where I am. I really don't like the people at my school for multiple reasons, so what should I do?



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05 Sep 2005, 9:30 pm

pay people to act like your friends in front of your parents


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05 Sep 2005, 9:49 pm

iamlucille wrote:
My parents are trying to force me to make friends with people in school. I have nothing for these people, and they all have their friends. I have my friends, they all go to different schools and I'm pretty content where I am. I really don't like the people at my school for multiple reasons, so what should I do?
Have a straight forward discussion with your parents about it. If you already have, keep having them until they get it. It's no doubt difficult for them to accept the fact that you are different. Showing them that you really are okay should help, if you can get to that point.



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05 Sep 2005, 9:51 pm

I like my idea better


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05 Sep 2005, 9:56 pm

I agree with Litguy. My parents also wanted me to make friends and they pushed me into a lot of activities to try to "help" me make friends. I am sure the intentions were good but I was happy. Just talk to you parents and let them know that you are not in need of friends and that you have thought the issue out.

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05 Sep 2005, 10:04 pm

I know my mom used to be that way, back up until about 4th grade before I started to actually want friends. Then after that, she just got upset over me not being a social butterfly, and would also sometimes disapprove of the people I chose to be friends with.



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05 Sep 2005, 10:05 pm

I've had the same problem growing up.

Mum forced me to go to dancing to try and meet people and do things, the people there were horrible, bullied me and I was miserable going.

She didn't know that of course. I think you have to be straightfoward. When I told Mum years later what going there was like, she was horrified.



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05 Sep 2005, 10:09 pm

My mom gave up on me after 5th grade. After that, I was left on my own to make friends. I failed miserabely, but at least my mom didn't try to help change that.


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06 Sep 2005, 8:01 am

rpm2004 wrote:
I like my idea better
Don't get me wrong. I liked your idea too. Mine is just a different perspective. :lol:



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06 Sep 2005, 8:07 am

It might be a good idea to make one or two friends, but I'm not forcing you to do anything. When I was in elementary and middle school, my parents used to try to force me to make friends, usually with the "popular" kids (the stereotypical jock and cheerleader type), but that never worked. As soon as I was left to my own devices, I made two friends (in elementary school). It was much better to have two good friends who I could trust than a bunch of acquaintances who would talk about me behind my back.

Though my friends have changed, I still have a few friends who I can trust with most things and tend to hang out in a smaller group even today.


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07 Sep 2005, 12:41 am

Namiko wrote:
It might be a good idea to make one or two friends, but I'm not forcing you to do anything. When I was in elementary and middle school, my parents used to try to force me to make friends, usually with the "popular" kids (the stereotypical jock and cheerleader type), but that never worked.


Hmm....see my mom went in the opposite direction, and encouraged me to be friends with the outcasts/geeks/whatever you want to call them. What she failed to understand was that some of those people were antisocial, rude, or just people that I wasn't compatible with as a friend. She'd also sometimes discourage me from being friends with the "popular" people, no matter how nice and down-to-earth they were, or how much I had in common with them.



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29 Sep 2005, 10:35 am

yep, I know the feeling.

often, usally my father says somthing accross the lines of "why don't you go out and make some new friends matey?"

or then theres my sister "don't youb want any friends" my responce to my siter is usally "I like the way I am dammit!! hav'nt you ever thought that I don't want any mates, I know it's may sound strange to you, but I don't want any dammit!!"

Then I storm off downstairs and smoke a cigerette, pissed off at the fact that she's wanting me to change and that no one can accept that maybe i don't want mates and like my own time...


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29 Sep 2005, 10:41 am

Yeah most of my friends have always been online (some of which I knew in rl some I didnt) and my parents always got mad at me for spending to much time online even though thats where I felt the most comfortable (especcially considering I wont make a phone call if my life doesn't depend on it... and even when it does I take a look at how painful the death would be.)


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06 Oct 2005, 3:01 pm

I hope you manage to explain to your parents that you're satisfied as you are.

I know how you feel, even this week I was told by my doctor that I should get out and make more friends :roll:



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07 May 2007, 11:23 pm

yealc wrote:
I agree with Litguy. My parents also wanted me to make friends and they pushed me into a lot of activities to try to "help" me make friends. I am sure the intentions were good but I was happy. Just talk to you parents and let them know that you are not in need of friends and that you have thought the issue out.

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same here



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08 May 2007, 4:29 pm

r parents are trying to do what they think is best for you, as they would be upset at not having friends they may have trouble understanding that you are happier without them currently. I understand it can feel hurtful.
Have a serious discussion with your parents, and if possiable try to meet them half way on it. i.e. join a club related to a speical intrest of yours.