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23 Oct 2005, 7:23 am

I wonder, is it possible to practice this somehow? You might probably say, practice it by trying harder when in such a noisy environment, but then it's already hard enough to concentrate on communicating with friends. Would it be possible to practice this at home?



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24 Oct 2005, 12:10 am

I'd love to know if there was a way to practice this as well. I have the same problem, and it annoys the hell out of me.



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24 Oct 2005, 5:59 am

DrizzleMan wrote:
Doesn't anyone find that watching people's mouths (almost like lipreading) helps?


Yes, I've found it helps with this exact problem. I've become quite proficient at lip-reading over the years.

Trouble is, my NT partner tells me that people think it's rude/weird to look at people's lips whilst they are talking! :roll: Apparently, the norm is to look at somewhere between the eyes and break contact every now and then. It should go without saying that I have no idea whether or not this is true!

You just can't win sometimes... :cry:


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24 Oct 2005, 7:32 am

I was accused of ignoring people when they spoke to me and in school was tested for deafness ( which has developed on selected frequencies since) but there was no physical problem. I just tune in/out to what I want. Background noise I can't deal with, on the few occasions I attended works night out the fact that people chose to go to places where you could not hear anything, couldn't get a seat, has to wait an eternity to get to the bar, etc,etc as a means of "socialising" really got to me. Predictable noise is OK, my neighbour can play his music as loud as he want and I don't hear it if I'm doing something, but when there are 2 neighbours doing it its unbearable, even if the volume is much lower.



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26 Oct 2005, 7:31 am

At partys I go to I have difficulty in hearing what people are talking about. So I usally get bored and people tell me to chill. I also have to ask people to repaet they are saying to me at partys.
I thoughts because the noise was distracting and drinking, despite other people seemingly speaking well.
The whole interupting people is common for me. I often begin talking when I think some one has finished what they are saying only to discover they hadn't finished. I some times answer other peoples questions in class.

So I guess this is typical of some with Aspergers.



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26 Oct 2005, 8:47 am

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Yes I have this exact problem. My hearing is sensitive, but very non-selective. I can usually tell if a TV is on the instant I walk into a room without looking, because of the high-pitched squeal it makes. Many people I've talked to say they can't hear it at all.

But in a noisy environment I have a terrible time trying to carry a conversation. Last night I was at a loud bar with 3 other friends. We were all sitting at a table and they were talking as if they were sitting in a library. To me it was just a jumbled bunch of noise.


Me too. Other people can't hear that TV noise? As for noisy environments, if there's any other noise around me at all, a person can be right beside me talking to me - I can hear that they're talking but I can't understand a word they're saying. The background noise doesn't get filtered out - my brain by default seems to want to focus on all that other noise instead of what I want to be listening to. It's called CAPD, Central Auditory Processing Disorder and it seems to be quite common among aspies.



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26 Oct 2005, 8:34 pm

I have a similar issue, I can't hear low noises if there is back ground noise.


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30 Oct 2005, 3:11 pm

I have no problems with hearing,my ears are very good,but sometimes I misunderstand what people are saying.

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30 Oct 2005, 4:53 pm

I am completely deaf in my right ear. I can't hear noises on my right side or from behind very well, I can't tell what direction a sound is coming from, and I mind as well be completely deaf when I'm in places with lots of background noise. I don't hear hight pitches all that well in my left ear, and maybe it's an AS trait, but I seem to be overly sensitive to bass, and even feel it. I seem to have an auditory processing problem where what people say often sounds all garbled to me like they are under water unless I match what they are saying to the movement of their mouth.



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31 Oct 2005, 8:54 pm

*dies from happiness to have found people who understand it exactly*

Yup, known as CAPD / APD / OAD. I can hear the TV noise when others can't (in fact it hurts because it's so high) but I know for certain I can't hear 18kHz or above, or 50Hz or lower. Background noise? I'll hear the TV but not make out anything else. Lip-reading is a lifeline - I can't rely solely on it but from the little I can actually *hear* I can couple them up and have a chance of knowing what people are trying to say. Often though in really noisy places when I cannot hear anything at all, it's time to revert to the smile and nod motto :?


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03 Nov 2005, 7:25 am

I do have a hearing impairment too, but there are some things I feel I am almost immune to, no matter how loud I turn up the volume on the radio I still cannot hear radio 4, it's nonsense!



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04 Nov 2005, 7:06 pm

DrizzleMan wrote:
Doesn't anyone find that watching people's mouths (almost like lipreading) helps?


I got into the habit of doing that - and found that with some people as long as I kept gazing at their mouths they carried on talking, sometimes for hours! The things women tell me about themselves ....! !!



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10 Nov 2005, 3:34 am

I've always had very bad hearing. To me it just seems as if people are mumbling all the time. I feel like telling people to speak clearer. I've been known my whole life to say "what" or "huh?" when I didnt hear what someone said, or couldnt understand what they said rather. My friends mostly just thought I was stupid and didn't understand, regardless that I told them many times I just couldnt hear them.Although Im in no way good at lip reading, just watching someone talks does help a little when trying to figure out what theyre saying. I wish sometimes I could lip-read better, would save a lot of hassle asking people to repeat themselves.

When Im trying to go to sleep, im very sensitive to noise, and can hear the tinyest of sounds. I hear a TV across the house even on a low volume, and it drives me absolutly bonkers. I need almost complete silence in order to be able to sleep, yet somehow I find the ticking of my clocks soothing :l I keep several loud ticking clocks because I like the sound. I often hear sounds no one else can hear. I also have a mild case of tinnitus, so I hear a loud pitched squeel in my ears all the time. (hear it now in fact). My sister teases me that I can hear the buzz of the TV that no one else hears, but not what she just said. oh well.



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10 Nov 2005, 1:30 pm

This is all very familiar to me too. I've always had trouble understanding what people were saying in a noisy environment and no one has ever come up with a good explanation why other than to tell me I need a hearing aid. It doesn't seem like this would help as I can hear very soft noises, I just can't determine the direction or distinguish speech. I used to hear the TV sound too (I'm 40 so my high frequency hearing has degraded due to natural aging).

The funny thing is that I used to mix the sound for our church. When I started, everyone raved about how great it sounded. I told them I just adjusted everything so I could hear it clearly and it seemed to work for everyone else too.



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10 Nov 2005, 1:31 pm

Have you been to a doctor about your hearing? There may be something that can be done; if not then at least there's a chance you'll know why you can't hear people talking very well. And also, I don't know whether your tinnitus gets on your nerves (mine tends to when I'm trying to concentrate at school) but if it does you can get help for that.


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10 Nov 2005, 2:25 pm

WOW cool! I thought I was the only person who could hear that high pitched whine of the tv!
Sometimes if I eat lunch in the food court, I find myself hearing all the conversations and it is interesting because I can hear them all at once, and see them. However when people are talking to me either in person or on the phone it is difficult to attend and I space out.
As far as the interrupting goes I do it all the time, It is so frustrating because I can't control it, and I am not saying impulse control, I just think the other person is done.
It is funny when I am on the phone with my son, he will just up and say "ok bye" in the middle of what I am saying. I end up calling him back and saying that you have to wait for a cue...like the other person might say they have to go or something. He doesn't interrupt too much though.


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