Who else has a complete inability to banter?

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I suck at banter and small talk. Yet if I am drunk I can do it. What does that mean? That Im just very shy?

I have difficulty with "small talk" or "casual conversations". My sister can talk on the phone, chatter into the receiver for an hour and end the conversation without actually having discussed anything. Whenever a general line or subject is absent, I quickly run out of lines and most attempts to keep the conversation going come across as artificial.

I banter on occasion, with mixed results. Sometimes the other person gets the irony/sarcasm, other times, I find out that someone considered my response that was intended as playful to be extremely rude. Unfortunately.

I find banter particularly difficult, and am at a loss to know what to do.

i've never understood banter. How are you supposed to start it or continue it?
I'm good when it comes to direct questions, or if the conversation has a specific objective.
But just talking? About nothing? How can you talk to someone about nothing...?

I enjoy reading banter, but I don't usually participate myself. I think my fear of rejection contributes to this. I know inside though, that someday I will be able to initiate.

I can't even tell when it is banter and when it isn't, and I've never been able to initiate it myself either.

I really suck at anything that requires a witty, off the cuff response.

My brain just does not operate that way.

I never know how to respond when someone is joking around or flirting with me, which is a shame since I can be really funny under the right conditions. Just not on command, apparently.

I can engage in banter in a relaxed setting with one or two people I know well. But not in a group setting.
I can't process the jokes and references quickly enough to be able to respond. by the time I have a response
ready, the subject of the conversation has changed.

everytime i get annoyed by what someone say, they say 'it's just banter, dont take it too seriously'

everytime i try to banter, people get annoyed and think i'm being rude.

I can give it my best shot, but sometimes I overstep my bounds without realising it, and things tend to unravel from there

I thought I could, until I found out the truth from people who knew me well.
Which was that no one really "got it" and it was not always the right response.

Well, we have dyslexia, dyscalculia, dyspraxia etc.

I have dys-banter-ia. I don't know if a word exists for it, probably not, so I made one up.