Depressed over lack of friends.

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i really only have about 20 people i would really consider friends, and less than half of that i would consider good friends. i wish i did have more friends, but i really never meet many people i would like to be friends with, most people generally bore me. the people i am friends with are all very interesting, smart, and great to talk with. hopefully this will change as i grow older and my peer group catches up with me(i dont want to sound like i feel i am better than anyone here, but intellectually i see little competition)

I agree with this statement.
Being around people who like to constantly go out to places, like to talk about the most pointless things and expect you to be interested is all too much sometimes.

Although, if you only stay around people who aren't "normal" either, then what are you achieving?...nothing . I mean, sure, it's a friendship...but being around people who aren't normal either is not really helping you improve your social skills as theirs might not be the best either so there for they wont be able to help you try to fit in, if you get what I mean.
I am not saying to avoid people who may be different, but just try to be open minded about who you can be around.

Saying this, I am being a hypocrite, as I seem to only talk to people who aren't 100% "normal"...not out of choice, they are the only people who will accept me ...but they're really nice

I'm pretty much the same way & have great difficulty socializing & as a result it's left me seriously depressed to the point that I'm now in therapy & on medication. I just hate being like this & really wish that things will change soon but I know that in order for that change to occur I've got to make an effort to work on it.

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I feel the same way. Worse, I feel like I can do nothing right. My academic and professional lives are going fine. Being in college, my classmates love me, and my coworkers do a lot (I work for a Congressman). But when it comes to my personal life, I have no friends. Worse, I have lost my only high school friend in real life.

Seems pretty similar to my situation too. I feel I am rather picky when it comes to friends. The people I think I could become friends with are picky too and don't want to be friends with me lol. Maybe I am too moralistic but I don't like racists, bullies, homophobes, prudes and remarkably that doesn't seem to leave a very big pool of potential friends. Usually anyone who labels me as wierdo (alot of people) I see as judgemental and I go off them (does that make me judgemental too?).

I find it depressing. I prefer my own time more than the majority of people but I still get lonely and feel pretty inadequate sometimes.

It's so odd reading things that I could easily have written myself.

I'm lucky in that I have a boyfriend so I have at least one person that I can rely on. I go through phases of really not caring that I'm so unpopular and then being quite depressed and blaming myself for it.

However, today I watched a TV show called "Living on the Edge" about a group of late-teens living in the affluent area of Alderley Edge. On the surface, they had it all. No need to work, their own cars and holiday homes, and loads of friends. They spent most of their time on the phone or meeting up with people. But in just a 30 minute show I was so thankful that I don't have their lives. Their friendships are based entirely on appearance and making it seem like you give a damn about each other. Their romantic relationships were about as strong as soggy tissue paper. I didn't once hear them talk about anything other than their own shallow lives.

So maybe having loads of friends isn't all it's cracked up to be. You have to be constantly checking that you're still friends and you have to go out whenever they ask you to. And most people are dull. Very, very dull.

I really hope that you can get to a point where you're okay with your situation, or better yet, find one truly brilliant person who you can trust.

P.S. You may be thinking, Why the hell did you watch that? Well, I'm ill damn it!

haha yah i was thinking the same thing. The exact sort of situation happened to me, and now i'm all alone!

haha, it's great, isn't it. I know i love it. //sarcasm