not sure if they want you around so you don't go near them??

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that's pretty much the only reason i don't have that many friends i think.

I do that. Even with people I get along with and spend time with (not "friends" per se, but friends of friends). If I think they don't want me around, I avoid them, and it sometimes leads to long periods of not interacting even though neither of us actually has a problem.

When I was doing my employment skills course, I did this also for the first few weeks. After that a few people started to approach me. After a few times of being around them, they stopped approaching me.
I guessed they didn't want me near them anymore so I stayed away.

i used to do that a lot more. now, depending on the situation, if i already know the people i'll go join them, even if i don't really add much to the conversation. the simple fact of me being there and listening to the conversation without anyone being overtly offended or bothered gives me comfort. it makes me feel accepted.