Thoughts on reciprocation

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I have a hard time quantifying my friends to. I guess I do it by length of time I have known them, how much I know about them and how much they know about me, and whether I have made it through a major fight with them.

My best friend: I have known since I was 13, she is also my second cousin and we have been through a lot. We talk every day now, even after several years of speaking a couple times.

My good friend: I have known her since I was 13, and we have been through a lot, but I really lost track of her for years and now we talk about once every couple months.

My friend: I have known since college. He came out to me and trusts me with conversations about his boyfriends and his issues. However, there have a couple hard times when he wasn't there for me. I would not feel comfortable about telling him certain things.

Then I have periphery friends. People who I see a lot and enjoy, but don't know a lot about.

Then I have my husband: I can tell him anything (and being an Aspie, I have talked and talked and talked), knows everything about me, has always been supportive of me and he still loves me. That is a true friend.

I guess I base my value on how much quality time I have spent with a person. Do they know a lot about me?

I don't have many friends, but I am okay with the ones I have.

Tallgirl

What do you exactly mean by saying that evolutionary psychology has been discredited! I would like to hear more about that! you talk like the whole field of evolutionary psychology is a single notion that can be discredited easily over night. It is a huge branch of psychological science and I can't really interpret your statement especially that it comes from someone working on a PhD!
Unless of course we are talking about something else! Certain beliefs maybe?