Are you interested in friendships?

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I'd say 'meh' rather than yes or no, so I chose yes. I wouldn't reject someone who wanted to be my friend, but I'll never die from loneliness if I have none.

just bumping the thread. This is for research, and I need as many votes as I can get!

I am interested in friendships in theory, but in reality I find them too hard to maintain and end up losing friends.
Being my myself is easier, but lonelier. Having friends is harder, but I don't feel lonely. I don't know which I prefer.

Answered yes... but I would more be interested in the ability to see "friend" as being a positive thing.

I have one already. Could probably do with another one. But then there are benefits to having only one friend that would be lost if I gained another one. And there are benefits to having two friends, but some detractions to that as well. So, I would "like" another friend on a purely intellectual level, but definitely won't be pursuing any.


So based on that justification you can delete my yes vote and make it a no if you think it's justified. I was pretty split about the decision so I am not married to either poll option. A case could be made either way.

I certainly am. I have a lot of acquaintance-type friends, but only a couple of true friends that I do things with and can talk to about anything. My best friends always seem to have similar disorders, too. But I guess that's why I do so well with them, and I consider myself fortunate to have them at all.

By the way, Viola, what ever became of that survey?

Okay, to start with I voted yes.

I have had the problem where I would always be doing all the work in a friendship. People always tell me we'll catch up soon or that I should call them, but would never get in contact me, or would in something like a 5:1 ratio. However, I've had two exceptions.

First one is my current best friend, Andrew, who I've known since year 7, some 15 years ago. It took me a long time cultivating our friendship before he started contacting me as much as I do him. It was about 5 years ago when he went to Japan for a year. I'd been thinking, was it worth putting in the effort again when he got back? But then when he got back, I was probably the first person he came to see after his family, and he's been a great friend ever since. I think it was because being overseas for a year, he had time to reflect and realise how good a friend I'd been.

The second guy, Ben, I met in year 10, and we hit it off right away. This was really weird for me, it was an equal friendship from the start, and we were total opposites in many ways. He was interested in stuff like skating and roller-blading, while I'm into books and writing and computer games. But we both liked music and going to parties, and I suppose we connected there. Anyway, after about four years after I befriended him, he became really weird, did all these dodgy things to people we knew, and stopped being such a good friend. Eventually he moved away as well and we dropped out of contact... this was close to when Andrew went to Japan.

So, because of Andrew I don't exactly need a friend, but it would be nice to have one or two who had different interests in common with me to him. But it's no big deal.

I voted no, simply because all the people I considered friends started treating me as diseased when I told them about my AS. Most of these people I'd known for 10 or 15 years at the time, which makes it all the more confusing. With most of the people I know now, I only share one or two common interests, and nothing else. It's extremely shallow and just barely tolerable for me on most days. It's just too much work.

Yes i am interested in friendships however i have had friends in da past but they never seem 2 last very long n secondly trusting them can also b a problem aswell.

bump, bump.

Never was. I just wanted someone to dicuss my special intrests. But other than that I just wanted to be alone or fight.

I've been obsessed by social things for years, but lately I just gave up. I can surely meet people and talk to them but as soon as people get close to me I always seem to mess it up somehow....

I currently have no friends, at least in my area. I don't talk with anyone much, would that mean I don't want friends? No, I do want friends, badly, however.... all my friends stopped caring about me and cut their ties with me. In a way, I am abandoned. All my friends now, I met online, TRUE friends, for once. A true friend values your life over his, knowing you do the same. Ones ya hope you grow to 80 and still talk to. People who call you and wake you up and scream "WHAT'S UP" on the phone, and put ya in a good mood even though you are angry for being woken.

I find it odd how many other people lost friends like me, just from them stop caring. Though I knew they were aquaintences, not friends. Friends don't want to cut ties, they keep bugging ya, and you enjoy their bugging. If not, they aren't friends, they're PESTS lol

This is the kind of problem that I was experiencing when I was attempting to build friendships during my high school years. I would try doing certain things to please people and have them become my friends (such as rapping and dancing). I would also call or email them and ask them if we could hang out sometime. However, they did nothing in return and never returned my calls or bothered inviting me to hang out with them. It just sucked big time.

I really want a girlfriend just like many people do, and am still working on my friendship skills. However, I'm not interacting with people that will tend to exploit me or pretend that their interested in me.

In a most sincere way, I've always been interested in friendships but, often I find it very difficult to not only facilitate the creation of them but, maintain the lenght or duration of them..See, often other people in the known world tend to look upon me as being hostile,evasive,or merely throught with sadness..I'll admit that I don't have all the wondrous characteristics in the world but, I'm not the Darth Vader of the universe of which some people have erroneosly made me out to be.Anyways, I'd like to make friends of others here on Wrongplanet if that's okay for, I have no limitations or pickiness when it comes to this matter..
Well, lastly, I'll simply say, that since being here there has been a great many people whom are quite interesting..


Sincerely,
ProfessorX

I take it the question is about now?

Interested in friendship from ages 0 to 15 years: no

Interest in friendship now: yes! A wonderful 100% of interest.

I'll vote 'yes' then.

Yeah, I'm interested in friendships.