Does it bother you when people call you?

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I hate cellphones have to use it at work
there are only 3 friends I can talk to by phone any time, but there is no need to because of icq %)
prefer to turn off any sounds, vibro...

Yes, it does bother me. Especially when my grandma calls, she always needs to talk to me for ten minutes or more about nothing. Totally nothing, except for a cute little puppy she saw. She talks on and on about everything and all her friends., which is really boring and annoying. When I'm at home I like to be left alone and not disturbed by people who think I like to listen to their stories about their great new shoes.

I almost never answer my phone. If it's important, they can leave a voice mail and I'll respond by text message. I get the same feeling talking on the phone as I do when people try to engage me in small talk; it's very on the spot and tedious for me, so I avoid it. I don't see the point in talking just for the sake of talking.

I generally dislike talking on the phone, so yes, though it sometimes depends on the person and my mood. My Mom calls typically once a week, but if she wants something or thinks something is urgent, she's incessant and crazy about it. I didn't return her calls or emails for a couple days, and she and my grandparents both assumed something had happened to me, even though I put that stuff off all the time!

All forms of communication have their pros/cons... but the immediacy of the telephone makes it the worst. I always feel like a Telephone conversation should go faster than a face to face conversation... and I rush and forget words and just basically create problems for myself.

Plus when someone calls, I have to pull some mental gymnastics to get my memory in order to respond properly... it's just so impromptu... hate it.

It does force me to respond, and it keeps me from over thinking like I do with e-mail.

I prefer face to face above all other communication styles. Face to face with a notebook/dry erase board so I can explain my ideas graphically, text and voice leaves out so much when what I am trying to explain is an idea-picture or more all encompassing than these linear forms of communication.

YES.

I only accept calls when I have to.

Luckily, I don't have anyone who calls me that frequently. I do have a friend though who calls every few days and once he does, it's impossible to get him off of the phone. That gets annoying very quickly, but whatever. I very much like the 'ignore' button on my phone that puts people straight through to voice mail. If it's something that matters, I'll get back to them.

I do tend to call people several times before something is supposed to happen, but I think that's just planning for every last detail. If I'm going over to someone's house, I generally end up calling them at least three times within 24 hours of showing up. Generally speaking though, I also tend to be recording something or doing something else audio related, so I end up getting every last detail of information about everything beforehand and discuss these things in alot of detail. I've never showed up to record unprepared though.

I really dislike calls. Making or receiving calls for me is a pain. I prefer ringing people though, but I get a bit of anxiety so I procrastinate instead of ringing whoever I need to ring. IM or email ftw.

I only have online friends so friends calling me isn't an issue (because they don't call me, ever). My family calls me very rarely, they usually txt me because they know I hate talking on the phone. It bothers me when anyone calls me on the phone for any reason. Most times I refuse to answer it when it rings unless I know someone will be calling at a specific time. I don't like not knowing who I'll be talking to (we don't have caller ID).

Is there anyone here that doesn't mind a phone call if it's a certain person?


Today I got a phone call and I answer it and it was Roger Meyers from the local aspie gathering and I was so happy to hear from him, I didn't care if I got interrupted and I didn't feel annoyed or anxious to get off. I hung up and was in a cheerful mood instead of being left angry or annoyed. I want to go to my next gathering despite all the bla bla bla, I like someone there.

Yes, it does.

The telephone is the evil instrument of evil.

i am bothered by phone calls.

i am never spontaneously ready to talk to people who ring.
i tell them to advise me at least 5 minutes before they intend to ring me.

i do not answer the phone because it does not ask me questions, but i respond to the ringing by picking up the receiver and saying hello.

then i am usually annoyed at the trap i have wandered into because they want to talk about their stuff.

i am not interested in conversation that is bilateral much because i can not think up there in the reciprocal stratosphere of intuition that is necessary to understand.

so when someone rings me unannounced, i scramble to assemble my series of announcements and proclamations, and i propose them to the exclusion of their input.
they soon tire and say good bye, or they get annoyed and ask why i can not listen to them.

what a chore.

I don't mind talking to my parents, but with non-immediate family members and "friends" I'm not always comfortable. I generally don't like talking on the phone.

I also hate having to dial people myself.

I don't really mind it when parents, friends, or relatives call. Though if I see a number in the caller ID that I don't know I never pick the phone up. I'm trying to stop that though.

What does bother is the awkward silences that occur a lot when I talk to people, when people call to just talk it can be a struggle to find something to talk about. And then there are the thoughts of "should I tell him/her bye and hang up now?" "should I try to talk about another subject?" and things of that nature. I prefer email or instant messaging. It's a lot easier to get my point across with the typed word.

I don't like the phone. There's many reasons why.

1) I can't really recognise a voice over the phone which leads to an awkward "Who is this?" moment.

2) Stephen Fry once make comments about the phone that echo my sentiments.
"The telephone is an incredibly rude device. It keeps ringing basically saying 'TALK TO ME NOW! TALK TO ME NOW! TALK TO ME NOW!'" (that's probably not word for word but it was something like that)
This goes both ways. I don't like the idea that I'm interrupting someone who's doing something and equally I don't like being interrupted when I'm doing something (many a Rock Band multiplier has been lost because of an ill-timed telephone call).

3) I can't stand small talk which means that my phone conversations are very abrupt. This can lead to people getting rather annoyed at me for only talking to them for about 20 seconds rather than having a 20 minute conversation where each party talks a lot but says nothing.

And more that I can't be bothered to list.

People sometimes say I shout in the phone or that they can't hear me. When my mom rings I sometimes hold the phone away from my ear so I don't have to hear her. Then go back on it and go 'yes' and 'mmm' and then hold it away again.