Feeling used by a female friend.

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She only called because she wants to confirm that you will pick her up again.

Its a relationship of convenience, her convenience that is.


I've been in the same boat with friends- you need to cut her off. I know you feel elated each time she contacts you, and you really want to believe that this time she really means what she says, but you will continue to be hurt as this cycle continues.

She's using you!! !!

I want to shake you, but I've had the same done to me before too; I'm sure others have as well.

You're just being a martyr!

One of the posters above made a good point; you're hanging onto her stuff because you still want her to come back. Bring it with you when you go to pick her up again (please don't keep doing it though)

I guess I'm in a similar situation with my bf/exbf (same person)... I don't know how to put this properly, but according to my brother, when relationships (or friendship in your case) end, there's something called 'rebound', where you miss the person terribly, begin to overlook all their faults and try to get back together, despite the heartache... the trick is to put them out of your mind and move on. Find a new friend. (I'm trying to get out of this cycle myself).

In your case, it's actually wasting your time and money ferrying this woman around. You should ask that she at least donate towards petrol!

(kahlua, you make an excellent point)

hmmm I am curious....before cutting her off , ask her this: Why you only call me each time when you need something from me?

I would like to see her reaction on her face.

Well I picked her up yesterday. I did lay into her a bit. She said she was sorry and she deserved me yelling at her for not calling when she first said she would. She also bought me dinner.

But it did not cost me any money for gas. I had a gas card i got as a gift for xmas. I used that.

yesterday I ended it. She laughed at me when my cat was in pain and i told her about it. I told her how i felt about everything and she said she could see me side but does not know how to fix it. She said she did not mean for things to get like this. But its over.

I just want to know why women feel like the can treat me like this. First the one that sent me really mixed signals. Now this one that did seem to respect me. What is wrong with me so that women enjoy treating me like this? I've done nothing to them and they like to mess with me.

This so called friendship has really messed with my head. Like the mixed signals girl. I'm worse for knowing her. It has made me want to totally give up on everything and just die.

I don't know the answer to your question, but I can relate. I stopped trying to meet men a few years ago, because they all treated me like dirt. They didn't like my personality but they'd stay around anyway. What I wanted the most in life was a life partner, but I had to give up on the dream and today I don't even remember about it. I felt that 25 years of trying was enough, and I wanted to get rid of having constant negative messages about me and pain and grieving. In my case, it was the mocking. They'd mock me and mock me. My life is a lot better since nobody mocks me. I accept that I'm a "mockable" individual, but it doesn't mean I have to resign myself to being mocked all the time. I can choose not to date. It's not like work, where I've no choice but take the humiliations day after day.

Nowadays when I think of dating, the only thing that jumps to my mind is the derisive laughter, the domineering attitude, and I cringe. I'll never date again. I thank God that I live in an era and place where a woman can live an independent life alone if so need be.

This has happened to me numerous times.