'Mixing' friends

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Who else finds this nearly impossible to do? Unless I'm with two friends that have been friends with each other, I pretty much lock up. If I'm home and have two of any of my friends over, I lock up too. Trying to find a common interest between two people is like pulling teeth. Hell, even seeing another friend while hanging out with one will do it!

Not to mention that around some friends I'm pretty chill, while others I'm pretty chipper. However, that said my newest friend is one of three years.

I know what you mean.

My best friend gets upset when I don't invite her to hang out with my friends who aren't mutual between us. I HATE feeling like I have to maintain conversation between other people - it's hard enough for me to maintain it myself. She always makes me have to do just that. It just turns into me having to switch from one person to the other, carrying on two completely different conversations.

I took my good friend to meet another friend a few years ago, they are both NT and are now friends. They act so silly together and have fun but i don't join in much, i notice how autistic i am around them, I'm so quiet and i just let them do all the talking. They are still good friends but i have lost friendship with one of them. So now i only like to see my friend alone.

It is perfectly fine to have seperate groups of friends, and for many good reasons. For example, I have a friend who is a strict Roman Catholic and won't talk about anything except education and his Catholicism. I know for a fact that if I tried to invite this friend to hang out with my other friends, most of whom are either non-Catholic Christians or non-Christian, he would either blurt out something about how they are wrong about their beliefs or sit there with a fake half-smile, arms crossed over his chest, and ignore them. (BTW, this Catholic friend is also an Aspie, which would go to explain his complete lack of tact). I think some of my friends would not mix well with other friends, so I don't try too hard to mix "friend groups".

That can be acultural thing.

I always mix my friends, finally they are the ones that could or not feel comfortable with the situation. Actually some of my friends from Colombia met their girlfriends thanks to me and they even spent a couple of years together.

But here in the netherlands is different, your are not suppose to mix your groups of friends and it appears to them to be a very uncomfortable situation (and thus also for me).

I'm trying to teach them that the posibilities are infinite and that they could meet a lot of cool people if they just let themselves go when meeting friends of their friends... not easy but is getting better.