Being Ignored

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yes they do give me it. girls these days give out numbers but dont call or text back. their loss

I don't put myself in situations where I risk being ignored. It's a matter of integrity, chosing the battlefield and revealing just what is absolutely needed while implying the rest. Of course the downside to this is I don't make friends since I keep my distance mentally and by acting, but at least I always have a guarantee to be heard. My fear of rejection is what drives this behaviour. I prefer people listening to the side of me they can't ignore, rather than opening myself up and risk being ignored.

They are ignorant people. they dont mean a thing. I do the same thing you do. I dont put myself in those situations. and for the girls, dont go for the obviously most attractive girl unless she comesto you. dude, women are so overrated for real.. i mean they are human beings like us. they have a head, fet, legs, hands, arms, they bleed, just like us. They are human. they sweat and smell and go to the bathroom like us too. they are human....its overrated. and they add makeup just to look pretty. come on, they are just human

Yup I just got ignored again by an aspie girl on here. The aspie girls on thie site never respond. For some reason aspie affection is messed up, theres a database error for 3 weeks. IDK.

I thought aspie girls would be defferent, but they are no different than normal girls when it comes to responding to messages.....f**k them

you know, society changes its view on you when you have a penis. It's so silly

Weird that people don't respond. I wrote to some people and they didn't respond either. But I don't let my be bothered by it, if people are weird, let them be weird, it shouldn't affect your life.

Remember you get 1 point for trying. 2 points for trying and succeeding. And 0 points for not trying. So you should be proud of yourself because you try to reach out to people, and don't just sit and complain all day long doing nothing.

I am sure than in a few years you will become so cool and respected that people will write to you, and you won't have time to respond to all the messages. Because people who have your energy level an willpower usually become successful.

I can relate so much to this. I feel like I am ignored on an ongoing basis by people online, as well as offline. It just makes me even more shy and afraid to say anything to people. I think though, that a lot of people are so caught up in themselves and their established friends that they don't think about anyone else, or trying to make even small talk with anyone.

Can see this from both sides.

I get very hurt by what I see as being ignored (no reply to emails or whatever), as I assume I have offended, upset, bored or made some huge social faux pas.

At the same time, I get completely stressed out if I have too much on my mind, so replying straight away isn't possible (unless I know someone will be fine with me emailing AAAAARRRRRGH- TOO MANY DEMANDS- go away for now!) and so I put off replying, which as I also get really easily sidetracked means I forget.

Add in the sucky social skills of not knowing when a response is needed or appropriate and it's a bad mixture- needy and appearing aloof at the same time.

Three-way conversations become one on one with me standing there like a lemon. If I speak, it feels like I'm butting in to their discussion.

I know what you mean. People mostly ignore me in real life. It's kind of funny; a few years ago I just wanted people to leave me alone but they kept pestering me, and now I'd like to be more social but people ignore me. I get ignored a lot online, too, which is why I rarely initiate conversations even online.

But I know I've ignored people over the Internet, too. Not because I don't want to talk to them. I'm just really busy, and I see a message and decide to reply later when I have time, but then I forget all about it. When I remember I feel like I've missed my opportunity to respond. I know that's not a good habit and it probably makes people feel bad...I'm working on it.

If I don't initiate a conversation, people, including, familiy members, will ignore me. I have gone through several days at work without speaking to co-workers--if I don't say something, they won't. I am always surprised how well people seem to get along without me. I should be used to it. (This isn't always a bad thing.)

I absolutely hate it when people add you on msn, but when you want to have a conversation with them (when they're not "busy"/"away"/"offline"), they ignore you or give you short cold replies, and then go offline without saying bye bye. I feel that they're not interested in me, nor do they respect me enough to even give a decent reply, so I remove them off my list. They're not worth wasting my time with.

I hear you on all of this -- my issues with this have just ruined the first real relationship development I've had in several years. I even tried to explain this, by saying that in my mind, a "no" response is far, far better than "no response." Naturally, that was still ignored.

When I re-read all the things I send to people when this situation develops, I look like a total stalker or nutjob. I would freak out if someone sent me that kind of message all the time. Yet, when I'm the one doing the sending, I always feel like I'm trying to salvage a friendship or relationship from some OTHER action that I may have done... or not done. Ultimately, it's the slew of messages that paints me in a bad light.

Chalk another item up on the "working on it" list

-M