Do you ever feel like you haven't changed?

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I do, unlike my now-old friends, family members, or any other close people I know who had moved on or got interested in other stuff, and I still pretty much have the same interests, lifestyle, personality, habits, etc., which can be a rather good thing, sometimes.

Bad things? You will be seen as obsessive, or just not growing up, that's if you care anyway.

Yes...sometimes i look at the people i grew up with
and i just have no idea what happend to them
or what it was that didnt happen to me..

All of them look older then they are for one, some
of them are barely 30 and look 40, i look younger.
And they have the A4 life - wife, kids, a job that makes
you want to kill yourself, a white house with a picket
fence and a volvo stationwagon in the yard. And i dont
get it, never have, its as if they are living on a different
planet compared to me, i often wonder how they think
and function. I wouldn`t mind a wife and kids but we
wouldn`t be living the way most people do since i
just dont get it, i dont understand. Sometimes it looks
like torture the way people do it, its not for me.

I`ve been thinking alot about it and found that i might
be stuck in the same ways i was when i was younger,
but i`m starting to belive thats a good thing And
when i look at the "grown-up" people i know its a
good thing who wants to be like that?
And i`m 32 now, pretty sure i`m as grown
up as i will get

I can handle myself and am a grown man according to
society, and thats ok with me - but i`m just a big kid,
not much more, and i`m ok with that also I can
put on the grown-up face when its needed, but its
not me, its just a way to survive

But, i have a feeling that alot of people just fall into
the rythm and dont react. You grow up, you get a job
to survive, you knock someone up and suddenly you`re
a dad and your life is officially over. From now on its all
about keeping the job so you can feed your kid, no matter
how much like s**t you feel, its what society expect of you.
f**k that i say Thats just bad planning and not using the
brain.

One day maybe i`ll be so lucky as to get a family on my own,
and i can promise one thing - our place will be a big playground
no 9 to 5 jobs, no stationwagons in the yard but alot of freedom
and fun

Sometimes I do but in some ways I have myself changed.

The only things that've really changed about me over the years are my weight, hair colour (for awhile that was every other week!), and occupation (cos I'm damn indecisive....probably the reason for the hair colour thing as well) Interests....pretty much all the same since I was maybe 5 or 6. And no, apparently I haven't aged, either. But hey, that's a GOOD thing!

My change has been gradual and evolutionary over the years. I'm kind of still the same person I was before, but with better insight and less prone to doing dumb things.

I've changed as a person. My entire view on life has changed rapidly in the last couple of years, but I don't think my interests have changed. I still have the same hobbies, near enough the same priorities, I just schedule them much more efficienctly and have a better outlook.

Yes and no. I don't feel like a different person, more like I've "evolved" if anything.

In some ways, like I still live at home and I'm unemployed. But my fashion taste, music taste and some parts of my personality have changed.

Not much has changed for me. I don't have any old friends to compare myself to, but just looking back on my own life, I can tell that not much has changed.

the more things change, the more they stay the same!

You know the old saying, "the more things change, the more they stay the same". That describes me basically. I feel that I can change but it takes a long period of time. As an example, I'll eventually talk to others that I get to know but I also feel that I don't change enough because I can never get to the next level, making actual friends. I've had so many chances on making real friends but I can never close the deal.

I do not feel like I have ever changed...
I have been feeling and thinking "mature" as long as I can remember.

Still the same hobbies and interests as well.
I am always quite confused why people call me "Sir" or "Man" or "Mister" now (I am 26).

I do not notice getting older really either.
Appearantly that is weird.

I *do* notice other people getting wrinkles or getting fatter or greyer though.

There are many times when I feel like I've changed (different tastes, environments). But for the most part I find that not much of my life is different from what I've been through over the years.

I could be 13--the adult stuff is all an act.

Yeah. I know I haven't changed. My habits haven't. That's why I have come up with a code to live by because my motor cortex doesn't seem to have any plasticity. This is why I have to live by a code, also because I am emotionally numb. I don't have the usual guidance system, emotions. This is why I study neuroscience and why I know about how habits form when you execute an action over and over again. With me, a bad habit can form immediately. That's why I injure myself if I get like that. Gotta be extreme to move a step forward, I'm afraid.