My friend died, now what do I do?

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Umm...my friend (about my age) died about 2 months ago. My mom tells me to send them a card, but every time I think about sending it, I get all weird about it because it's strange and sad to think that he's gone. Also, it's strange because I don't know what to write in the card.

Any suggestions?

u will go through stages of grief.

why don't you write exactly that... ???

That it's weird to think of him as gone? But...what sort of message does that send? He was like...my best friend, so, I want it to at least sound meaningful...

I can understand it is difficult to know what to say.

Really to say something is all that matters, to acknowledge that this person was your friend. Maybe recount something you did together.

It is horrible to lose someone so young I have no doubt everyone who knew this person is feeling shocked and are hurting.

My friend died in the beginning of may this year, and i still havent sent anything. i need to though. i dont feel so bad because i havent seen him in 2 years, i felt alittle bad though. but its so sad

Emphasise how you feel.

How it feels like a part of you is gone. Sort of like phantom limb pain. It's gone but it still hurts.

Why send a card at all?
Go have coffee with his family or something. Share their grief in person.
Cards are sent by people who won't make room in their schedules to grieve properly.

That's obviously not you.

Or by people who would have absolutely no idea what to say in person, and will spend hours trying to figure out what to even say in a card...

I agree with the one about saying something like what you said here. That you don't know what to say or how to feel, and how hard it is to fathom that he's gone.