Dealing with a NT, with a major NT disorder

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I hang out with this group of people, all NT's, on a typical basis, there is this one person who is 100% NT. This guy plays the by the NT book completely. This one person seems to always trying to find faults about me, therefore to get the others to notice. Has anyone experienced this before? I feel I have to start finding faults about him....

thus starts the competition. Nobody plays a game they lose at. This is why he wants you to play his game. Why play his game? I have found that if you are just seemingly oblivious to his intentions his game is exposed to others because he has to work it so hard when you are not playing back.

just my experience.

Merle

Yes, I agree with this advice. If you simply ignore him and refuse to play his game the others will notice that he is the one who is being nasty. He will draw negative attention to himself, not to you.

I've had that in pretty much every workplace and every houseshare I've lived in, there was always someone (usually female) who'd insist on playing this game. I've learned that it's best to be rude to them or completely ignore them, otherwise they will bully you out of the group. don't let them see your weakness.

Right listen to me stros...

Ok this is typical guy competitive behaviour. The best thing for you to do is to laugh it off and make jokes about yourself, if you ignore or get defensive that shows weakness and it will put you on the outer, if you can laugh things off it shows you are stronger.

Yes you need to find faults with him and make fun of him, if you do he will respect you more. Don't worry if you get into arguements with him.

There is no game to play if there is only one person involved; by responding, you feed the fire. Some people can rebut in that regard, but more often than not it only feeds the fire. Given the difficulties inherent for those on the spectrum in communication, things could rapidly spiral out of control.


M.

well i have friends who are like that, im also nt, but some of my friends used to do it to others friends in the same group, so ummm my advice is, not laught about yourself, not try to do the same as he do, just ignore that because if you laught then he will keep that and if you do the same to him, it will be like a fight, unless you are completly sure that you can win in that, probably he will keep acting like that i guess that they do that because they need to feel better than others so its a way to do that, and as much as i can see in my group so it will be not solve completly never because like i said this type of persons i guess need this type of acting for feel fine in their own life > <

You mean that there are lowfunctioning NTs too??