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amyst
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04 Jan 2010, 9:13 pm

I am conflicted. At least for a period of few months, a friend had been using me, but he grew a bit nicer afterward. However it caused major damage to my life.

I wanted to have him as a friend, but I am afraid because of his insincerity and the harm he inflicts on me. What should I do?



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04 Jan 2010, 11:48 pm

Even if it may seem hard to let go of him, from what you've wrote, he sounds like he would make a lousy friend. I would suggest droping him, If he has hurt you that bad.



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05 Jan 2010, 10:12 am

My thinking is, don't hold a person's past against them. And don't hang on to past hurts.

Do let the past inform your present choices.

To put it differently, the choice to be friends with him or not, or what kind of friendship, should be based on what you can expect. Do you have a level of trust appropriate to the relationship?


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05 Jan 2010, 10:25 am

Let him go, he sounds toxic as hell.


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