How many good friends do people have?

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I just was wondering if anybody had anybody they would consider to be a good friend. When I thought about it I realized that I really don't have any good friends at all. There are times that I would like a good friend and there are times when I could care less. Right now having friends would come in handy but it seems the older I get the less work I want to put into friendships.

I'm not sure of the definition of friend. People I know and like? More than a few. People I hang out with? None. I just don't have the psychic energy for it. I have a childhood friend who lives less than 10 miles from me and I haven't seen her in two years. But I know either one of us could pick up the phone and easily pick up where we left off.

I don't have any good/close friends either, although I'm fairly close with my family. There are people and colleagues I know and am friendly with, but no one who really knows me well. I can't help putting up barriers to keep that from happening.

Elementary School, none until 5th grade, where I made one close friend the last couple years, we both moved by Junior High, where I had no friends.

First half of High School, having just moved to a large metro area, only a couple of acquaintances at school, none outside of school.

Second half of High School in a rural small town, One good friend, several social friends and quite a few acquaintances.

Throughout my 20s, a couple of close friends, a few other good friends, several girlfriends, lots of acquaintances mostly through work and friends of friends.

Married in my 30s and lost contact with all but 1 or 2 of my friends trying to deal with the stress of marriage and family.

By my 40s, lost contact with those, divorced, and had only a handful of coworker acquaintances I was friendly with at work, but saw nowhere else.

Now: no close friends at all. Socially friendly with an ex on occasion, hear from one old friend by phone once or twice a year.

For the past 15 years I've not been able to exceed my limit of having 0.4 good friends.

enough

I'm not sure anymore. I have one friend left that I sometimes hang out with, but we don't really share anything personal or have deep discussions. We usually just joke around and zone out playing videogames or watching movies. I want to say we're good friends but I just don't know if what we have qualifies as being good friends.

I don't know. I have one good friend. That's a lot less than the people around me seem to have.

At the moment I have 6 friends, 3 of them I consider very close but the other 3 are good friends but not best friends.
In infants school I had about 2-ish good friends but I don't 100% remember.
Junior school I had a few close friends and a bunch of acquaintances (if I look back now they didn't actually like me that much they were just friends with my friends).
First half of highschool I had a load of acquaintances and a few friends that came and went. In year 8 I made a new best friend who I am still very close to now. Second half of highschool I had very few acquaintances but made the friends I keep now, the ones from the first half and the old acquaintances no longer spoke to me.
Now in college I have no friends but my current 6 are outside of college.

1. Used to be zero. I have a couple of other friends but they aren't 'good' ones. That's not to say they're bad though.

Maybe 5 such good friends that we talk about dreams and all thoughts and
really know each other as friends for life. Maybe another 5 that don't have
such a deep bond with. I've known them a very long time already and they
seem to be rare and special kinds of people who are able to communicate
so much between myself and them, but this is the kind of friend I tend to
have.

I used to have a handful of very good friends. We were quite close for years. The older I get, the less work I want to put into the social part of all that, though we do exchange occasional emails/cards etc. I rarely see them, but in a pinch they'd be there if I needed help (and the reverse). I have to work all day long, so when I finally get home the last thing I want to do is have to deal with more people. I think if I was home all day by myself I might be more of a social animal - perhaps, or perhaps not - but for now I have all the social interactions I can stand during the workday.

most NTs have about 2-3 really close friends

I have a very narrow definition of of the term "friend", and by that definition, I would say just a couple....

Zilch

1 who lives almost 400 miles away and an ex/baby momma 4,000 miles away.

But by NT standards they aren't that close, but it works for me right now.

I had a best friend for 7 years... but we ended up destroying each other, broke up and now we can't even speak to each other anymore. At the time that was all I needed.